• TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.world
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    My first GF, many years ago. I was snuggling with her, and smelled her hair. I said it smelled nice, and she pulled back to tell me she hadn’t washed it in three days. In the moment, because I was so young and inexperienced, I felt a little foolish.

    It doesn’t take long to realize it’s okay to like what you like.

  • pjwestin@lemmy.world
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    11 hours ago

    My wife has always told me that women really just want a guy who is nice to them and doesn’t smell, and monosphere weirdos keep telling them to do the opposite.

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      I’ve read my fair share of romance novels by women and it’s common to describe the main love interest as smelling like freshly clean laundry lol. Literally just show up clean with clean clothes on. It’s not more complicated than that.

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        Technically true. Fun and interesting are what most people are attracted to regardless of gender. People also are particularly prone to developing attraction to people they feel good being around.

        Kindness is however a prerequisite for a large portion of women (and an absolute no go for plenty of other women, because people). The ones who want kindness are much better partners

      • Nalivai@lemmy.world
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        2 hours ago

        By telling you to trust virgin men instead of women on matters of what said women think, said virgin men fried your understanding of the world forever.

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    9 hours ago

    Fresh pheromones are really powerful, that is why dancing is great for a date. But any other activity works, the key is in fresh.

    Old pheromones are diluted in pee.

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      right? if you actually want to advertise “pheromones” (i don’t think it’s the right term but whatever) you should be taking a shower without using any perfumed products, then just do a little bit of exercise.

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      Jacobson gland doesn’t work in humans. We don’t sence nor we produce any pheromones.

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      Yeah a fresh mild sweat can do wonders, but too much or too old is a problem.

      But also, just wearing a little scent while being clean can take it up a notch. That way as the evening goes on your scent slowly takes to the forefront. A scent should be discovered not announced, that goes for both perfumes and bodily scents

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    14 hours ago

    so how many men is “some men?” weasel words imply the actual reality is someone saw a statistically insignificant number of tweets and didn’t want to say that because it weakens the point they already decided they want to make.

    anyway my junk smells great after a shower, and i know people with sniff kinks, so… i guess that makes me more alpha than these losers.

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    15 hours ago

    I’m pretty sure if it’s anything-maxxing it’s stupid as fuck. Unless it’s giving me money-maxing. I’m all for that one.

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      fibremaxxing: consume nothing but wood and grass so you quite literally shit bricks that can be used for construction.

      seriously, using high-fibre (animal) poo in mud bricks is a legitimate construction technique that works great in dry climates!

    • Seth Taylor@lemmy.world
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      11 hours ago

      Max-maxxing. Max everything out. Have everything and do everything. Become one with the universe, be the beginning and end of time

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    I’m not up on whatever trend but it may work in some cases provided they’re not just marinating in filth (there’s definitely a difference).

    I got psy-op’d by society into being very anxious about possibly smelling around a date since I sweat easily so I ensured absolutely every time before one was a VERY thorough shower and scrub til’ I was practically raw, generous application of deoderant, etc. and applied a light bit of tea tree oil before I went on a date.

    On one of the early dates with my now-wife while we were watching a movie, she finally turned to me and said that there was some sort of smell to me that was giving her a headache for the past few dates and asked if I could just not use that moving forward.

    It turned out that she actually hated the deoderant and tea tree and so on and actually some sort of wire is crossed in her head such that my natural body scent smells like passionfruit to her (she very positively rates passionfruit). So my early efforts to come off as if I have never had the concept of sweat in my life were directly sabotaging my attempt to appeal to her nose, in addition to making me feel insecure about it when there was really no need.

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      going light on perfume (or straight up not using it at all) should be borderline mandated by law, so many people suffer from being surrounded by pungent perfume, it can literally trigger asthma attacks!

      Keep yourself clean, use like a single spritz of perfume, and apply it a while before you head out so it has time to mellow down a bit. And please god use gentle subtle scents, not Febreeze Facefuck Fury that singes people’s nose hairs clean off…

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    13 hours ago

    Sounds like a Cosmo magazine that give advice on blow jobs instead a few years ago. They reccomended using teeth. They said something like “he won’t ask because he’s embarrassed” or something.

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    23 hours ago

    It’s almost like they want their fanbase to remain single and sexually frustrated

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    It’s not that hard… shower 4-8 hours before the date, then don’t do anything that makes you sweat significantly or become dirty. You’ll still be clean, but won’t have scrubbed away your natural smells and the like.