@georgetakei@universeodon.com I don’t know what it says and I don’t click on strange links

@georgetakei@universeodon.com absolutely this sentiment. A wedding should never be funded on the backs of its guests.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com Weddings, like Xmas, are, by and large, a commercialised scam to make a lot of money for various people. Save your money, do it at a registry office and use the money for your house payment, upgrade to a cleaner car or for your kid’s education fund. Anything but pissing it away on an expensive, pointless wedding that’s all over in a couple of hours and then you spend months or years paying for.

Better yet, forget the wedding BS altogether, marriage just makes things much harder when you separate, which happens to the majority of couple nowadays.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com This very much depends on the culture. Romanians, for example, may bring half a month’s salary in cash as a gift, and could expect a 2-3 day bacchian feast party in return. It would be very different in Austria, for example.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com on the topic of guest being asked to fund the honeymoon, I could not agree more. everybody seems to want, and expect, everything. Don’t ask your friends to support your life. Gifts are traditionally about helping a new couple set up housekeeping. I get that is no longer as pertinent but they should then select items they will value for decades. Not potato peelers or small misc things. I will also say that expectations for what one should spend on gifts is way low.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com
48 years ago (49 in September) we went to city hall and back to my parents for dinner with a few people. It doesn’t have to be an extravagant affair.
It’s about love and it needs to last.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com how is this statement controversial in any way? It’s just common sense.