• CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works
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      10 months ago

      I don’t judge the age difference as long as they’re both adults. What two consenting adults do is up to them, it’s none of my business.

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        Oh, I judge, particularly the older person, but not in some moralistic way. But in a “if at 50 you can have a romantic or sexual relationship, even temporarily, with an 18-year-old, I have some unflattering views of you.”

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        It depends on the relative power imbalance at this point. If a 20 year old is out at bars going home with 50 year old dudes, then slay queen. If it’s 20 year old secretary with 50 year old boss, then there’s a much higher chance that the situation is fucked, though still not 100% I suppose.

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          I’m always conflicted on the sugar daddy scenario. I mean if a woman is attractive and wants to leverage that into a relationship that makes her financially comfortable, who am I to say no?

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        Hey is that Oyasumi Punpun?

        I couldn’t remember the name and I am amused that the search string “sad bird manga” worked.

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        A relationship between a 20 yo and a 17 yo isn’t unethical. It’s not like we magically become more mature once we turn 18.

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        If I recall correctly, over here once the person reaches the age of consent (16) it’s considered legally acceptable if the different is + 4 years, meaning a 20 years old couldn’t be accused of being a pedo if they were going out with a consenting 16 years old…

        They just need to remember to not be idiots and not to share pictures…

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      I dunno I had a girlfriend who was 34-36 when I was 21-23 and it wasn’t weird or anything, still friends many years later even though we have our own families now. She got carded buying alcohol more than me so it’s not like it was obvious though.

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      10 months ago

      What if half my age plus 7 is 6 months less than my other half’s age? Too close?

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        They literally said that was the acceptable range.

        You said your SO fails within that range.

        Ergo, that’s acceptable.

        …as the original comment said, “Shit’s not hard.”

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          But 10 years ago when we met it would have been outside that range.

          Half my age plus 7 would have been 4.5 years older then her age then. How can it be acceptable now, but not then?

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            That’s literally how the formula is intended to work, since any given age difference means less the older the two parties are (ie. a 40 year old married to a 50 year old is no big deal, but that same couple at 16 age 26 years old is creepy, and illegally so).

            If your partner was 4.5 years outside of the formula range when you met (and assuming when you met is when you started dating…not some stupid gotcha like “we met at church when I was a teenager and they were a young child, and we didn’t see each other romantically for another 15 years! Haha!”) it’s probably a situation where it was indeed eyebrow raising when you started dating.