Like you’ll need to hide everything new you got into in fear he’ll yell at you or humiliate you for buying a new game or watching a new show, or even wearing a new shirt. Would you hide that you still celebrate Halloween, Christmas, birthdays, etc despite not being a little kid? Is it normal to go by keyspam usernames and be as anonymous as possible to avoid being found online by your friend as he’ll post private information or hate on all of your posts? While also seeming like the asshole because you’re being secretive for no reason?
Everyone is saying that’s not a friend, but I’m seeing paranoia or at least anxiety.
Wether they’re a friend or not doesn’t really matter here, take care of yourself, talk with people of you need to, okay?
being secretive for no reason
You’re not being secretive for no reason. You’re being secretive to avoid harassment from someone you care about. Seems like they don’t really return the favour, they just make fun of you.
I used to have a friend like that in high school and life significantly improved when I decided to change friend groups.
You are not describing a “friend”.
You mistyped “bully” as “friend”
What exactly makes this person a “friend?”
This is not a healthy friendship. This person does not have your best interests at heart. Distance yourself. Stop hanging out, stop messaging. Give excuses if you’re not comfortable telling them that you won’t tolerate their treatment of you anymore. Do not let them guilt you into staying in each other’s lives. They might see you push them away and try everything they can to pull you back in. Don’t give in. Real friends like to see you happy and want to build your confidence up. Go to events where people have similar interests to you and you will make better friends. Good luck!
This is not the behavior of a friend.
It’s not normal behavior at all in any way.
I beg to differ. If I were a c-word, this behavior would be par for the course.
What’s the C-word? Cunt?
In that case yes, it’s cunty behaviour but that’s not normal behaviour.
Your friend is making you insecure for just being yourself. He is a manipulative bully, not your friend.
Sounds like you need to distance yourself from this individual. They are not your friend.
A normal friendship does not leave you anxious or scared of their reactions no matter what you are up to, however private you want to be or how little time you spend with them. You don’t have to agree on everything or enjoy everything the same way. A friend is someone whos company you enjoy from time to time. But have no obligation to please or requirement to spend time with.
Posting private information about you on the internet sounds very bad. I’d ask them to refrain from that. Escalate that to relevant authoity if it doesn’t stop.
Okay, so: is it because you reasonably expect that from your friend? Have they given you reason to expect these things? Or is it more just an anxiety thing? Like, you know it’s not a reasonable fear, but your brain still won’t let go?
If A: no, that’s not normal and he’s hella toxic. Especially the online anonymity thing- what the fuck?
If B: no, that’s not exactly normal but anxiety is a bitch sometimes.
Simply put: no that is not normal. That person is not really your friend.
In your heart I think you know the answer or you wouldn’t be posting here like this. No, it’s not normal or healthy. That person is not a friend, and he seems dangerous to be around (maybe not for physical reasons but definitely for mental reasons).
Continue to be secretive and distance yourself from him; that’s not asshole behavior, that’s self-preservation. I hope you are able to separate yourself and get free from this person and in time find actual friends who care and support you for who you are.
Do not associate with people who treat you this way.
Your friends should love to see you geek out over the stuff that makes you happy.
There’s this saying: those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.
That’s a great saying, gonna save that!
