• fyzzlefry@retrolemmy.com
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    1 month ago

    I’m a forever DM, as a favor to all DMs out there, please don’t use DND for therapy. We’re not therapists, we’re storytellers. We’re just as likely to make things worse.

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      Ttrpg’s can definitely be used by therapists (e.g.see https://gametogrow.org/ ) but people in general should not underestimate the skill and training professional therapists bring to the table. Just playing an rpg is not therapy.

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      I’m a forever GM too, and I made this meme referring to a player in my groups. She’s an amazing player and I include her as often as possible. The point of the meme was not really to highlight that people use TTRPGs as a therapy replacement, though I definitely know that some might try that and I agree with you that it’s not a good idea.

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        I’ve never played a TTRPG, but I noticed that the first person said DM and you said GM. Are they interchangeable? Or is DM specifically only for D&D because of dungeon? Is there bad blood between people who say GM vs DM? Is it like crips and bloods?

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          Generally yes. DM and GM are interchangeable, with the small caveat that the term Dungeon Master is owned by Wizards.

          Source

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          DM (Dungeon Master) is a registered trademark by the rights holders of Dungeons and Dragons, that’s why Game Master (GM) is used as a generic term free of the fear to get the Pinkerton’s send at your door

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            I don’t think DM is a trademark, but if you have other information feel free to provide it. Looking through older discussion forums on this topic, the only semi-definitive answer I’ve found is in this 2021 thread where somebody referred to a now-defunct US gov’t trademark search link, where they said they found a lot of "DM"s registered but none related to D&D. I’m inclined to believe it was a working link at that time and they weren’t just making shit up.

            Personally I use the term DM because I’ve mostly played D&D, so to me it’s more natural.

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    Nothing wrong with a little bit of projection every now and then. It seems some people take it too far as a coping mechanism sometimes taking it to unhinged/unsafe degrees.

    I consider it an ethical and moral responsibility to hide the darker aspects of my life from other people in general unless they are closely loved family or get paid to deal with such things as a career. If were just weekend night game buddies theres no reason you should be able to guess anything about my shitty life or internal suffering through poorly veiled character back story allusions. Its not your responsibility, its more personal that most are casually comfortable with, and its wrong for me to try to burden you with knowledge like that.

    Revealing your deep traumas / “venting” to other regular people who only know you as a friend or passing aquanitence simply adds onto their psychological burden and likely makes further interaction weird or even secretly unwanted by complicating the relationship. Likely without improving your emotional situation any long term.

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    Do not assume that every character Trauma is the player putting their own Trauma, while it’s not uncommon to be from a bankrupt wealthy familyor gender non comforming, oreven a single parentIRL, it’s a very classic Character design trope, because fighting lord evil who stole your family possession or finding back your original body/form are great Character goal feeding the plot and the story.

    Sure it may be a way to tell something about you in the PC creation, but it may just be a way to offer plot hooks

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      It’s also worth understanding that trauma is something that you work out through your daily life, not just in therapy. One of the models for trauma is that it’s caused by a sense of helplessness in the face of a great stressor or existential threat, and engaging in activities that let you react to dangers can be theraputic.

      Theraputic, not therapy.

      No one else at the table needs to be directly involved. No one need be asked to be a shoulder to lie on. It’s not any different in practice than the masturbatory power fantasies we’re all engaging in at the table. It’s just starting from a slightly different place.

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        Asking someone to write fantasy without putting their own lived experience into the writing would be counterproductive anyway. Good characters should have a little bit of yourself in them

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    I’ve only played one character with trauma. Even then, I made sure it was thematic and still allowed for him to function in a party.

    It also made him a never nude.