I informed each of my 3 sons-in-law on their wedding day that each of my Daughters were “No deposit, No return” And so far, none of them has asked for a refund.
So I count that as win.
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Yeah, jokes about marriage are perfectly fine for a person with 5 marriages. If they don’t like it, they can get married less.
If you like marriages so much, then WHY DON’T YOU MARRY EM???
Or at least choose more carefully the next time 🤷🏻
Errmm. At 5 marriages you gotta start thinking maybe it’s you and not necessarily the choices you’re making.
¿Por que no los dos? 🤷🏻
No espeako bravado encumpliato biznatch
From a person who has been divorced once, and seen other friends get divorced. it’s not so much about choosing carefully, it’s about communication when the relationship gets tough or boring (and ideally before you get there). Finding the right person is the easy part, staying in love and staying happy - that’s the difficult part
Yeah I’d guess she either has unreasonable expectations, is a terrible communicator, or just a hot mess in general. Had a cousin like this. She was probably all three.
You could argue that taking care to communicate openly and honestly is a choice, and that choosing someone able and willing to do that is a HUGE part of “finding the right person” 🤷🏻
But yeah, “communication is key” didn’t become a cliché because it ISN’T true heh
If I had to guess she’s hot and a psycho 😂
Oh no im on gen x lemmy again
This is what I wish my mom was
I’ll I’d be careful if I were you
If you can choose, why don’t you choose?
No
You can have one, maybe two divorces that aren’t your fault.
But if you have 3 or more divorces, you are the problem.
There are two reasons: you are the problem or your taste in an ability to find a compatible person is extremely bad. They’re definitely part of the problem, but possibly not fully.
If you repeatedly have extremely bad taste in partners, that’s also you being the problem, just in a different way.
Maybe also not get married again with 3 marriages behind you
Maybe they’re the “I can’t have sex outside of marriage, but I’m really horny!” type?
Do you know any of these women? If they don’t have kids, my number is xxx-xxx-xxxx.
After 1 I have no interest ever again
Yeah, I’ve thought the same. If you haven’t figured it out by the third go, you probably won’t.
Happy cake day!
Yep. Even if you aren’t an asshole it certainly means you make shitty partner choices over and over.
Not only that, but this woman has had 5 marriages in a short enough time that her dad is still able to walk her down the aisle.
Eh… If your parents live into their 80s and you were born when they were about 20, you could easily still have them around in your 60s. And living into your 80s is pretty common. Certainly not unheard of to live into the 90s or 100s, so it’s more than possible to be 80 years old and still have your father walk you down the aisle … though, at that age, it might be difficult for him to walk that far unassisted.
That was such a good book. And for anyone who hasn’t read, yeah she’s the reason she goes through 7 husbands.
Are you making a 109 reference?
Every time I see this boomer joke, the number of marriages has increased
That’s because they keep giving her back.
Give her it back
I will marry you if you don’t say that again
Warm take: every marriage after the first should be a courthouse wedding. If it’s one person’s first, maybe a less than 30 people reception should be thrown. I don’t know why I think this
Because if a “once in a lifetime event” happens more than once in a lifetime, it starts loosing meaning?
Also: I had a courthouse wedding and it was so special! Years later, when we could afford it, we had the “wedding reception”, only the big party. Way less stressful and a lot of fun. Totally recommend. Added bonus: I have two days to look back to
Thats what my best friend did. Her ceremony was super gay and mega cute, I’m really happy I was able to go in spite of some medical issues making it complicated
well at least they can just tighten it up to regain the meaning
losing. loose is stuff that isn’t tight. losing is to take away.
Because they cost tens of thousands of dollars and force everyone you know to make room in their schedules go out of their way to put up with all the pomp and circumstance while making you the center of attention and feigning sentimentality, possibly also with the assumed obligation of bringing an expensive gift?
I swear some people just get married for the wedding and then get divorced as soon as the honeymoon is over, rinse and repeat. It’s like they’re addicted to being the center of attention and can’t get over the fact that no one really cares about them, and this is the only real way for them to have a captive audience.
Yeah, that’s what you get when you teach people to want a wedding. I’ve met lots of people like that, they don’t care who they’re marrying but just the fact that they’re getting married. Why did we decide the partnering event is more important than whom you’re getting partnered with?
I got married on a mountain when I was homeless so I got incriminated against by the whole police insubstrate
Anything after 2 and you’re in “Vegas Chapel With Elvis Impersonator” territory.
You can be together and not get married.
There are a LOT of benefits to being married. Especially if one of you needs to make legal decisions for the other one.
That was one of the main drivers for pushing for gay marriage in the 2000’s. There were a lot of high profile cases where one of the two were nearing the end of their life, and the family that were pissed about having a “gay son” who hadn’t talked to them in 20 years were the ones making the decisions instead of the husband who wasn’t technically a husband in the legal system for 20 years.
There are, but there are also a lot of drawbacks to bring divorced multiple times. This also depends on how long and far the person is taking at the “getting to know each other” stage before marriage, etc as well
conservative gays : but no, we don’t need that, that’s a straight institution. More boats in my throat please.
edit : boots , not boats, but fuck it, imma leave it in
That’s where power of attorney comes into play?
I know this woman that is a friend of a friend, she is hot by almost all definitions. She is i think 45 right now, but still looks fine. She is trying to find a guy to marry for the 6th time. Her plan is straight up pretend to be richer than she is, get married to rich growing people and get divorced and ask for significant money. Her first marriage last 10 years but 1st husband made millions while they were married and she got a 80m settlement. That’s when something clicked in her. She has “earned” (I say earned because that’s what she says she does) another 180m from 4 other marriages after that.
She is a complete deplorable person, but fuck if she isn’t being smart here. She puts money in trust to retire well and make sure her daughter is well taken care of. Only thing I feel sad about is, she is teaching that to her daughter as well. Daughter is about to turn 18 in next year or two, and already talks about finding a billionaire for the daughter.
Only thing I would give her, she does help her friends quite a bit. Our common friend actually got around 40k for downpayment for the house. And from what I see she does treat our common friend quite well despite our common friend being just another pleb like me.
She puts money in trust to retire well and make sure her daughter is well taken care of.
If 260M isn’t going to let you and the rest of your family retire in absolute comfort, you have some really expensive hobbies. That’s a ridiculous amount of money.
I have only met her 3-4 times, but I’m sure she spends a lot, I don’t know if in million in a month, but for sure couple of millions a year at the bare minimum. She has rented a bungalow in Singapore with a pool, that shit alone costs around a million a year.
Jesus, what a sad life. I pity her.
That’s better than the leach who’s gonna get married to a friend of mine. Refuses to work and is generally not a great person while thinking high of herself. Found out from a mutual friend that nobody in their friend circle likes her. Since he’s got good money—nothing like the woman from your comment, but enough to live very well while being a sole earner—I really, really hope he isn’t stupid and will do a prenup. Though knowing how emotionally manipulative she is, I’m not hopeful.
Big if true!
This reminds me of my brother. I’d known my wife for two months before we got married. We celebrate 10 years next month
Meanwhile, in the same time frame, he’s on wife six.
Sounds like my brohther in law. He and others were taking bets on how long my wife and I would last, with nobody thinking we would make it past a year.
It was 17 years this year. BIL is on wife #3.
People like that think if they can do “better” than their peers, they’re winning somehow with relationships.
They have a fundamental misunderstanding about what relationships are about.
Which is why theirs fail. They think it’s a game and there’s points and winners and losers.
They will never learn that it’s about putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own sometimes is what’s best in life.
I have someone to care for, and she cares for me. That’s all I ever wanted. Her getting excited about my dumb nerd stuff is just a bonus.
Team effort always. Making each other better. Caring for each other when down.
It makes me sad some people can get so lost in material things and lose the thing that makes us human.
2 months seems quick to me, but I’m also feeling like I’m in a similar position. I’m dating someone currently that I’ve know for a while, and I’m thinking about proposing soon (we’re only a couple months into an actual relationship, and we’ve also talked about me doing this). I’m a little worried we’re both just getting carried away. So I guess my question to you is how did you know so soon, or was it a leap of faith in a way?
My husband and I knew within a few months that we were in love and we wanted to be together forever. We got engaged right away, but we waited a year after that to get married.
We were very young, but we’ve put in the work and we still take time to have fun together. We’ll celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary next month.
From personal experience on this, it ended terribly for me. I didnt really know the person I married and we were completely incompatible together. Mostly because I’m incompatible with being abused and she was incompatible with not abusing people.
I suggest cooling your jets and moving in together for a year. Maybe even two. Then propose if it goes well in that year or two. But not after 2 months…
Mostly because I’m incompatible with being abused and she was incompatible with not abusing people.
That was a freaking funny way to say that man, especially in contrast to the content.
A combination of both, really. We just…knew. And I’ll be honest, it’s taken work. A lot of it. Our main rules are honesty and communication. We also tell people marriage isn’t 50/50. It’s 100/100. If you’re giving only 50%, you’re holding back and it won’t work.
Is there a reason not to wait until you’ve cooled off out of new relationship energy? Maybe it’s not a bad idea, but being early in a relationship is a sort of being high on each other. The relationship will cool down as it matures, that’s not to say it gets worse, when it’s great it gets different but remains wonderful. But early on you’re not in the long term stage and you don’t truly know how you or your partner will be in that stage.
If there’s a good reason, go for it, but it carries risk.
GenX here, using the 80/20 rule 80% of my friend’s marriages (probably higher %) have ended in divorce. Typically after kids are involved. :-/
Well you’re what’s in common between all of your friends, so logically…
Look, I touched the bride’s butt once at the reception. Never living that down am I?
Yeah, you thought you did, but it was actually my hand that was there.
First off, he’s an excellent couple’s counselor and, sure, all his friends went to him, but their divorces are not his fault!
Feel slightly attacked here… I was maid of honor ONCE and that marriage lasted less than a year.
My spouse on the other hand: twice. Both marriages have lasted (so far) between 5-10 years, seem to be in best health and another friend asked him to be best man for his anniversary marriage (this time for the church).
I often joke that people should choose more carefully.
Among my friends 100% of divorces were proceeded by getting married…
Conclusion: kids are the cause of 60% of divorces.
When you consider that they’re also the main contributor to overpopulation, the conclusion is inescapable:
We need a worldwide moriatum on procreation and possibly an immediate and comprehensive culling of everyone currently younger than 8.
Anyways, vote Viking Hippie for county treasurer!
Conclusion: kids are the cause of 60% of divorces.
They might not be the original cause but often they are part of the process. Some people seem to think that a child will fix their already strained relationship. The problem is that while children make it harder to split up, they usually don’t fix the underlying reason why the relationship didn’t work in the first place. In the end, they get a divorce anyway only now there is a small human who has to suffer from it.
Congratulations to the few where a child did fix a relationship but for everyone else, maybe sort out your problems before you add another innocent bystander into the mix.
Reminds me of back when I still drank and got the idea that getting a car would be the way to stop drinking because I’d have to be sober to drive 😄
I did not follow through on that harebrained scheme, but I DID eventually stop drinking and am now closing in on 9 years sober 😁🥳
Congrats 👏🏻 🎉 I just passed the two year mark a few months ago
Thanks! Congrats to you too! 🥳
In addition, having kids is a lot of work and takes energy and teamwork and sleepless nights. If you’re not doing great already, adding a pile of stress and exhaustion certainly isn’t going to help.
Vote the Golden God for district 37 comptroller!
I thought I was alone…
That’s definitely higher than average, do you have any idea why?
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