Oh my god I’ve got so many 😭

  • SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
    1941·
    11 months ago

    One teacher allowed girls bathroom breaks without a question but not guys and we thought it was bc girls can’t hold pee in since they don’t have dicks.

    If you can’t tell sex ed doesnt exist in this part of the world

    Hell that’s not even sex ed but anatomy ig

  • macisr@sh.itjust.works
    1401·
    11 months ago

    I am a medical interpreter and until like three months ago I didn’t know that women had clear fluid secretions on the regular, as in as a normal part of their life monthly cycle. No one, not any gf nor my actual gf or any friend had told me that. I hadn’t heard about it anywhere, either on the news, on small talk, on jokes, on serious conversations, on sex ed, nowhere. I was in wonder not because of the fact, but because of how little info about it there is until I got the info in my job, and even there i hadn’t heard about it before nor after. It’s so weird for something so common to be this quiet.

    • flicker@kbin.social
      129·
      11 months ago

      You know what’s extra fun about this?

      Those secretions bleach underwear. That’s right, my cute black panties are all inevitably doomed to have a white spot in the crotch over time!

      • agitatedpotato@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        201·
        11 months ago

        Im not a vagina haver, and I hear that the PH levels can also slowly cause holes in a lot of fabrics. That sounds rough, my washing machine slowly ruins enough of my clothes on it own.

          • agitatedpotato@lemmy.dbzer0.com
            101·
            11 months ago

            Id imagine friction between sock and shoe plays a bigger part there than friction can play with genitals and underwear. At least I hope so, I pity the poor bastards who got just as much friction there on a dialy basis lol.

        • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
          101·
          11 months ago

          Yeah I didn’t learn that until after I became one. That was a fun thing to be informed is normal after thinking something is wrong

          • Aggravationstation@lemmy.world
            1·
            11 months ago

            So when you say “after I became one” are you saying you’re trans and have begun to experience this after bottom surgery? If so, I’m wondering if there are the same kind of secretions from the penis that I’m just not noticing. I mean there are times when I drift off in thoughts of sexual fantasies and end up with “pre-cum” in my underwear. I wonder if it’s the same process.

            • Sombyr@lemmy.one
              4·
              11 months ago

              As a trans woman, we definitely can get a similar phenomenon, but I can’t vouch for how common it is or if it’s the same thing.

              If it does happen, it generally starts a while after your hormone levels get consistently in the right place. Don’t need surgery. For me, it’s even straight up dependant on what brand of estrogen I’m taking. I take injections, and if I’m on 10mg/ml, it happens, but any time I have to take 20mg/ml, it stops. Doesn’t matter that my hormone levels haven’t shifted even slightly.

              It is known that it’s the same organs producing it as males have, but why it begins to behave like that and why it doesn’t happen to everyone is, as far as I know, completely unknown.

        • Doubleohdonut@lemmy.ca
          54·
          11 months ago

          Ugh so gross. So there’s only 1 possible solution, and they have to sell it to you. More options pleas3, not made of clunky, awkward pads which force me to wear Granny panties.

      • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
        1·
        11 months ago

        I kept reading and hearing this and since it doesn’t happen to me I thought something was wrong with me. So I’d like to add that according to my gyn it’s also perfectly normal to not have this happen!

    • all-knight-party@kbin.run
      71·
      11 months ago

      I’d almost say the same thing about the fact that ballsacks “breathe” constantly. It’s easily confirmed by just looking at them when idle, but nobody talks about it and I never read anything about it until I just… Looked at my own balls for a few seconds and realized they noticeably expand and contract at a discernable speed.

  • SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
    1054·
    11 months ago

    Believed this until I was like 16 and so did everyone else in our school.

    A girl did anal and got pregnant and since it was anal that got her pregnant she was gonna poop out the baby. Funny thing is I was part of the group conversation that started this rumor and STILL we all believed it.

  • Pantherina@feddit.de
    1025·
    11 months ago

    The hymen is not normally ripping at the “first time”, but these myths come from brutal men that have no compassion and dont know how to make both people horny.

    • Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
      741·
      11 months ago

      Breaking a hymen when you first have sex is indeed a myth, but so is the idea that sufficient arousal will prevent tearing every hymen.

      Hymens come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and elasticities. They can tear from many things but most people with hymens are quite likely to experience minor tearing or bleeding the first time they have sex. That’s especially true if the hymen is particularly large or thick and if you haven’t torn it before the first time you had sex.

      That’s the last myth, even if breaking a hymen was a real thing required for sex, it doesn’t say anything about virginity because many girls tear it in childhood and puberty from a variety of activities as innocuous as swimming.

      https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/health/period/what-is-hymen-and-how-it-changes

        • RyanLiu@lemmy.ml
          102·
          11 months ago

          My gf bled the first 5 or 6 times we had sex. It definitely heals.

        • Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
          81·
          11 months ago

          That’s true to some extent. Any stretching will return to nominal state in fairly short order, and tears certainly heal. However it never goes back to it’s “pretorn” state, and I wouldn’t think anyone would want it to, a lot of hymens don’t allow significant penetration of foreign objects (or body parts) in their original states. The article I linked has more details on that in a few different sections.

  • lyth@sh.itjust.works
    961·
    11 months ago

    at 17yo I thought my circumcision scar was a birthmark and I didn’t know you had to have sex at least once per pregnancy

    parents, please tell your kids where babies come from and what all their parts are supposed to do, and don’t circumcise them either

  • Studious_Gluteus@kbin.social
    931·
    11 months ago

    Until about halfway into my teens, no one told me that periods were painful, or involved behavior altering hormone releases. I thought my sisters were becoming moody & rude for no reason. I was generally aware of the concept of periods, but not of the broader effects. I feel I might have been much more sympathetic had I known.

    • pascal@lemm.ee
      20·
      11 months ago

      Well, it’s a spectrum. I worked with a woman that was spending the whole time in our office laying on the floor during her period because how painful it was. But I’m also married with a woman that doesn’t have any symptoms at all and when asked about she said the only annoyance was having tampons ready.

  • CADmonkey@lemmy.world
    771·
    11 months ago

    Mine was “Not all women like being touched the same way”. As in, some women can’t reach orgasm from penetration alone, but some do. Some want direct pressure on their clitoris, some do not. And this all makes sense, not everyone likes the same things.

    And that is, for me at least, where the fun is. I like to figure things out. I like to see how stuff works. And women are pretty awesome. What would be a better evening than figuring out exactly how to pleasure someone, through communication and experimentation? I’m still finding ways to push my wife’s buttons 14 years later.

    • ReakDuck@lemmy.ml
      321·
      11 months ago

      Sucks when the person doesn’t like to communicate with you and just ignores her own issues to just satisfy you.

      I was less satisfied because I wasn’t allowed to figure it out and just felt like a bad person. The sex drive went down for her after a year, no wonder, but its not my fault either.

      2 years later and I broke with her up as she was pretty manipulative and impossible to talk to from the beginning.

      • pelletbucket@lemm.ee
        15·
        11 months ago

        the number of times a girl has been taken aback when i take a moment to ask “so what gets you off?”

      • intensely_human@lemm.ee
        3·
        11 months ago

        Sounds familiar. I wasn’t doing it practically at all for my ex, and I could tell, but she refused to acknowledge any problem. Like, she wasn’t cumming. She said she was.

        I remember the literal one time I made her cum she said in this sort of surprised voice “I … I’m cumming”.

        It’s not that orgasms were new to her. It’s that because I wasn’t pleasing her, she assumed I had never pleased any woman and that I didn’t know the difference. So she just lied, and went to find other men to get her to cum. As in, just cheated on me to get what she needed.

        That hurt extremely bad. Hearing that something’s not working for my partner is slightly deflating, followed by exciting again when whatever we changed makes it work. Hearing (implicitly) that I’m too hopeless to even be notified of the problem, fucked with my head badly.

  • Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    751·
    11 months ago

    I had to explain to a girl that no, we should not have sex while you have a UTI. She was in her mid 30’s.

    • philpo@feddit.de
      15·
      11 months ago

      Worked in an ED/still work as a paramedic occasionally.

      You don’t want to know how many times I had to explain this shit to a grown woman, sometimes 30y older than me.

      • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
        382·
        11 months ago

        So if one partner has a UTI, the other partner could get the UTI (even asymptomatically) and they could keep reinfecting each other in a hilarious game of tag.

        Or if one partner has multiple partner they could spread the UTI around, even if they are asymptomatic.

    • Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.works
      21·
      11 months ago

      Also, the pill does sometimes fail. Rarely if you do things perfectly (99% succes), but since we’re all human, things rarely go perfectly (91% succes rate in real life). If you normally have a cycle of bleeding once a month, you have a nice solid clue to go take a pregnancy test when you don’t bleed once a month.

      But yeah, you don’t really HAVE to. My next period is planned for early 2026.

      • DrPop@lemmy.one
        9·
        11 months ago

        According to my schedule Estrus we are going to have to push you back. We’ll call you when times available.

    • macisr@sh.itjust.works
      11·
      11 months ago

      Yeah, as i posted above, im a medical interpreter and yeah, birth control methods, not only hormonal, will stop menstruation, and that is normal. They actually prescribe birth control pills to women that bleed too much and have iron deficiencies because of it.

      Edit: As an anecdote, i went out for a time with a girl that told me that she took birth control pills because her period was too heavy, and that once she forgot to take them and that she was bleeding for 20 minutes in the shower, and that she was very scared. Femininity goes hard sometimes I guess lol.

    • Kusimulkku@lemm.ee
      7·
      11 months ago

      Sometimes they recommend you go three months without a period. Apparently it can be healthier. And the body doesn’t really know any better after you’ve got used to it.

    • kase@lemmy.world
      4·
      11 months ago

      yup! I have endometriosis and was on the pill continuously ages 15-18. It doesn’t work out for everybody, but it was a lifesaver for me. Debilitating symptoms went bye bye, and pretty soon I was back in school (after a few months’ absence).

  • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    612·
    11 months ago

    well my sex ed consisted of a man who would later that year get fired for hitting a student telling us that premarital sex will result in pregnancy and then having us perform a play I can only describe as racially charged about the subject

    after being fired he went on to become a far right politician

  • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
    601·
    11 months ago

    I did not understand orgasms or realize I wasn’t having them with my partners until I finally did have one. 😂 I genuinely didn’t understand that it could feel that good until it did.

    Another win for abstinence-based sex ed in rural America!

    • irmoz@reddthat.com
      33·
      11 months ago

      That is a win in their perspective. For those types, sex is something a woman lets her man do to her. Her pleasure is not even secondary, it isn’t even a consideration.

      • wick@lemm.ee
        13·
        11 months ago

        Tbf, they theoretically would rather men didn’t get any pleasure either, and procreation happened by holding hands after praying.

    • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      263·
      11 months ago

      Ever meet a true fedora-tipping gentlesir that insisted that feeemale orgasms can’t exist because there would be no biological purpose to them?

      They’re out there. expert-shapiro

        • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
          81·
          11 months ago

          The way I’ve seen logiclords explain it, it’s because male orgasms result in sperm ejaculation, and feeemale orgasms do not, therefore feeeemale orgasms have no such contributing factor to conception therefore they have no reason to exist. kubrick-stare

    • SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
      81·
      11 months ago

      How does one not know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like??? Like did you never masturbate or anything (I feel rude saying that, pls feel free to ignore the invasion of privacy).

      But also being on reddit taught me that this is smth many women have gone through

      • UnverifiedAPK@lemmy.ml
        141·
        11 months ago

        In my experience it’s women who squirt that are more likely not to know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like. They’ll definitely feel good, like edging, then get to a point where it feels like they’ve overstimulated themselves to the point of peeing the bed and stop. Not realizing there’s a “getting over the hill” moment to an orgasm.

  • miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml
    45·
    11 months ago

    Let me just say here how much I appreciate the sex ed I got in school.

    I’m talking life-size cross-section models of a human torso that you could take individual organs out of for closer inspection.

    One thing we still didn’t learn much about is how wildly different periods can be for different people, I very much appreciated a friend explaining this to me.

    • Lazylazycat@lemmy.world
      4·
      11 months ago

      Agreed on period variation. I remember my teacher telling everyone women didn’t lose more than a teaspoon of blood over the course of a period and I was so confused because I could be sitting over the toilet and losing a teaspoon’s worth in 2 minutes. But no, apparently I was misjudging the amount.

      I felt vindicated when I later bought a mooncup and it would fill up in an hour 😆

      • IMALlama@lemmy.world
        5·
        11 months ago

        Different people can have different cycle lengths, durations, and intensity/pain/flow during ones period.

        All those things can also vary for the same person month to month and it can get even more variable as you move between life events (having kids, getting older).

  • sayqueensbridge [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    442·
    11 months ago

    I didn’t understand the concept of a climax until it happened. The first time crankin it I remember mid way through thinking “I don’t get it, so if I keep doing this it just keeps feeling better and better infinitely?” When it happened it was one of the most stunning moments of my life.

    • SHOW_ME_YOUR_ASSHOLE@lemm.ee
      13·
      11 months ago

      Until my first ejaculation, I thought the only time something came out of my penis was when I was peeing. I was so surprised when something else came out and holy shit there was so much of it everywhere. I didn’t know that could happen and it made a mess all over my surroundings.

      Last minute addition: I thought a woman could get pregnant if a man licked between her boobs. This was before my first ejaculation.

      • DudeDudenson@lemmings.world
        3·
        11 months ago

        I had my first real ejaculation while I was sleeping as a kid. The one time I slept over at my grandma’s. She never said anything but boy did I have impecable timing.