I am trying to make a decision. curious about your thoughts on my personal situation, and what you think in general. or your own stories if you have anything relevant…
Live within your means.
It depends on where your priorities are. For me i would go for cheap\shitty place so long as it was safe enough and i wasn’t going to be robbed all the time. Save the money and then go buy a place you really like when you can afford it better.
so long as it was safe enough and i wasn’t going to be robbed all the time
Want to emphasize this. You end up losing based on stolen goods or physical harm.
Not an issue in either of the areas I am looking at. I’m sure theft happens, but have never heard of it being a particular problem… the cheaper place isn’t in a shittier area, and is still pretty rural.
Renting: cheaper is almost always better.
Purchasing: it can make sense to get the nicest place you can afford, with the expectation that your pay will increase but your mortgage won’t.
I would argue living below your means is always better. Getting a cheap mortgage you can add an extra $100 or $200 a month to for the first five years makes a TREMENDOUS difference in how much interest you pay over the life of the mortgage and how soon you own it. The first five years of a mortgage are so important, all your payments go to interest. I’ve turned all my 30 mortgages into 15-20 year mortgages by over payments and it’s served me extremely well.
Whatever you do don’t spend the limit of what you can afford, you will be struggling constantly.
One is 40% of your income, the other is just plain inconvenient. I think you ought to look at a few more options.
Cheap yes, shitty no.
Living in a shitty place to me means potentially unsanitary (broken, moldy) or unsafe neighborhood/building. Cheap on the other hand might mean well out in the suburbs or a generally less desirable/boring area. That’s something I feel like a compromise is possible.
Struggle to afford is also a bit of a vague statement. Can you give us an idea? There have been some ratios going around like rent should be max 30% of your income for example, but I don’t really get why you shouldn’t go beyond that if your remaining expenses are manageable.
So before sacrificing safety, I’d rather do a proper budget and check if there’s a chance to save money elsewhere to make a nice place more affordable.
Generally the cheaper place, imo. One big thing to consider is your commute though. The quality of the place itself has some impact on your overall happiness for sure, but length of commute really has a lot more than you’d expect. If the cheaper place is a lot farther away, not only will that eat up time, but you’ll spend extra money on just commuting, which will eat into the amount it actually saves you.
Neither of these sound like good situations to me. Do whichever makes the most sense short term, but keep looking for something better.
Rental market is weird here, especially at my price point. There is another rental that would be $1250/mo, same distance from work and the landlord seemed genuinely very nice. Not sure that price difference is worth a move, but peace of mind from the landlord might be.
Depends on how cheap. If you are likely to be killed or robbed just from leaving your apartment do not live there. If it’s just run down with a few bugs here and there then that’s doable. You can always spend your extra money making it livable.
Living outside of your means is not worth it. It’s good until the money runs out. Then you don’t have food to eat.
You should only even consider the latter if your employment is very secure and you’re a full-on homebody.
Being able to save now means a nicer place later; spending less on housing means more for going out. Get the cheaper place for a little while.
My employment is very secure and, I’m a homebody mostly just because there is nothing nearby for me to do other than nature, and I do nature for work … and I don’t have much money to go out 🥲
Sounds like you’d like to go out. Get a cheaper place and use the difference for adventures!
Yes, I think that’s what I am leaning towards!! Thank you for the input
Rent a cheap, shitty place
Save the money until you can afford to buy your own home.
Ah, I don’t think I will ever be able to afford a house. My income isn’t likely to increase by much given my career (80k might be my max, 100k is possible in a decade or two or if I get a PhD). Houses average around 800k. Not to mention the risk of fire, in the region, it doesn’t seem like a sound investment for someone at my income.
So for me, my financial goals are about building up retirement fund and being able to afford a better life (my dreams are to pay for fluff/fold laundry because I have ADHD and constantly struggle keeping up, be able to afford to travel without dipping into emergency fund, have my car paid off, be able to afford car repairs without dipping into emergency fund 😭. just basic stability.) I don’t plan on having children, and honestly don’t particularly care about marriage and prefer a lifestyle of a robust community life.
So what good is a house for me? I have read all the financial advice recommending it but … that seems to apply more to people with families, or higher incomes where saving to buy a house requires less sacrifice from daily life. It doesn’t seem like a good use of my money. Scrimping for twenty years, only to still pay off a mortgage for thirty years, and then die.
Sounds like you’re just making excuses for your lack of willpower.
If you’re able to pay for rent, you’re able to afford paying back a loan.
Imagine building a retirement fund and then pissing it half of it away because you’re still renting lmao.
If you’re able to pay for rent, you’re able to afford paying back a loan.
May not be true depending on where OP lives. There are a lot of rent vs buy calculators out there, and home prices are so expensive in some areas that it’s actually better financially to rent instead of own, and to invest the difference in payments. For example that’s the case where I live in San Francisco - investing the difference between rent payments and mortgage payments nets me more in the long run, even considering housing value appreciation.
Edit: this of course doesn’t apply to investment properties, where you get the value of the asset + appreciation, but also get rental payments.
yup SF bay area. buying a house is only a good idea if your parents are funding the down payment.
List of things you can do if houses are too expensive where you live:
- move.
- rent, invest the difference, enjoy $$$
- reach retirement age, still piss away half your income in rent, never improve your life.
Improve your life by moving to a shithole rural area where houses are cheap?
Lack of willpower? Lmao where is that even coming from? Sounds like you just wanted to bring up your talking point?
I work a full-time job and am doing very well for my field given my years of experience … it’s just not a high paying job, because I work for an environmental nonprofit and the work itself is important to me. Are you just saying that because my dream is to not do laundry? What is the point of having money if you can’t use it to save yourself hours of labor? And a couple hundred dollars a month on laundry would not make or break affording a house, anyway…
I can’t pay for a loan until I can afford a down payment. You need money for that.
You are clearly not a serious person, and I will lot be taking any of your advice seriously. You are not willing to seriously engage in the reality of my situation, and would prefer to live in a fantasy land where people are wealthy/poor due to “laziness” and not … exploitation. Because that is what is happening. I have a moral conscious and am being exploited by the nonprofit-industrial complex, being underpaid to do impactful work during a climate emergency.
edit: also, I’m already 30. by the time I could afford a down payment, I’d already be close to retirement age. Clearly you have never once thought about someone with a different financial situation to your own, and just think you’re better than anyone else who doesn’t live exactly like you do. Fuck off.
“you are not a serious person”, says the guy thinking pissing away their money in rent because they are too lazy to do laundry is a good tradeoff lmao.
You’ll be funding someone else’s property all your life like a servant just to save 15 minutes of folding clothes every week.
Oh shit, must have forgot that $200/month could buy me a house. Damn. Also don’t see where I mentioned that as anything other than an aspirational splurge. Also … it takes me way longer than 15 min to do laundry, esp because I have ADHD and a hard time keeping track of timing loads, and folding usually takes up to an hour. But I realize you’re too fucking dumb to know what a disability is.
Not to mention… what is the point of owning a house I’ll be paying my mortgage off on until I die? I’m gonna bring the house to the grave?
You’re renting, you can literally grab a truck and move to a cheaper housing market with all your belongings overnight.
If you can pay rent, you can pay a mortgage.
At least the mortgage is benefiting you.
You can’t pay a mortgage until you have a down payment … and even with a down payment…
Do you know what house I could afford for that much in my area? A house in a trailer park where I would still be paying rent.
You’re acting all superior but you literally can’t handle basic math.
And you’re saying I could just move to another area … I don’t want to. As an trans person, I will simply not be leaving. It is very easy to access healthcare and services in my area. And my quality of life would tank even if I wasn’t trans … my job is tied to living where I do, most of my community is here… anywhere I could actually afford would not be a pleasant place to live. But yeah, if you want to own a home in bumfuck Idaho, sure. I won’t be, because I think enjoying my life is more important than a deed.
Not more than a third of your income, is the general rule
In many cities, that would mean a 81sqft room in a unit with three roommates in the worst part of town, and having a 45 minute commute to work (each way).
Life’s too short, is what I decided. I could live in almost comfortable conditions and not have any money, or live in miserable conditions and still not have any money.
The room I am looking at is literally that 🥲 81 sq feet and a 55 min commute to work.
My situation:
current place: ($1530)
- 1:15 drive from work
- small building, linear studio apartment shape, maybe 30x9 feet? small kitchen/bath
- rural, 20 min drive from city, hour walk to nearest town
- finished interior, but mice/rat problem
- landlord kinda weirdly tracking my movements, she doesn’t want me working from home too many ways a week
cheaper place: ($600)
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55 min from work -standalone MIL in a shared house, bath/kitchen in main house, 9x9 feet
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more suburban, roads might be too dangerous to be walkable but if not, maybe 15 min walk to town
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unfinished interior… no idea if there is a mice/rat problem but the kitchen area is separate.
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got along well with potential housemates
I make $3780/mo after taxes, budget now feels tight, but not sure if the extra $1000 a month would be worth a smaller/unfinished space. I feel it might be worth it because I could save/invest extra money, or use extra money to make the rental nicer.
Any extra money you can save (toward a 6 month safety buffer, and then investing for retirement) every single month while living within your means is typically the best option.
Investing $900 per month makes such a gigantic difference for anyone who doesn’t have an unlimited budget. That’s $10800 per year even before counting interest.
A shared flat is no dream situation, but this sounds like a potentially life changing difference.
Yeah that’s an insane amount of money especially if you put it all into retirement accounts. This could supercharge OP’s retirement.
I’m failing to see what’s wrong with the cheaper place.
It’s moving from my own place to a shared space, and I have to go outside to another building to use the kitchen or bathroom.
OK. Yeah. Those are sacrifices. Shorter commute and no pests? Huge upgrades though. It sounds worth it, unless you really really value your privacy.
Commute of fifty minutes? The max for me.
And I feel something like pests would be a great reason to spend more on housing. But in this case spend less.
Definite market failure there are not more housing options at more price points in more locations and quality.
unless you really really value your privacy.
OP’s privacy is currently being violated by the landlord keeping an eye on how many days they work from home. (wtf?)
Heard - unfortunately no pests isn’t a guarantee, it’s more of an unknown. The floorboards are unfinished and I wouldn’t be surprised if there was something.
Yeah the housing market here is rough. Only found this cheap place through contacts.
I don’t think unfinished floorboards necessarily makes rodents so much more welcome.
I’d say go for the cheaper one. You save 50 minutes every day, you probably don’t have to deal with rats any more, you can invest $1000 per month for savings, and you get rid of your creepy landlady. Flatmates might be a blessing and they might be a curse, but a good first impression is a start.
I’m definitely leaning this way. Messaged the shared house to let them know my interest, it’s still up to them but I’ll see!
And tbh I need to trust my instincts more. Got a weird vibe from the landlady from the start. So maybe it’s a good sign for the potential housemates 😅
Also finding it through contracts is a good sign.
If it’s not 100% cozy, remember you could spend $500 per month making it cozier and you’d still be in the green.
Good luck!
It’s not a market failure, it’s a deliberate constraint on supply by local governments, in most cases. It’s local government interfering with the market.
Developers would LOVE to build more housing. Not that I’m any fan of developers, but they’re not the cause of the supply shortage here.
No one is making low cost housing. Yes sure making more houses might stop the bleeding on cost.
But no developer is like “yeah I want to build some affordable housing. Something those stuck in the slums aspire to”.
They make the shit with the best margins.
I think it’s both. There is a lot of NIMBYism and local homeowners like to vote against affordable housing. And of course, the homeowners are all old and retired and have time to harass city councils.
3×3m (which is a bed, the space for the door to open, and maybe a wardrobe but probably not), potential rat problem in the shared kitchen.
I played around with the floorplan, could fit a loft twin bed and a desk underneath, a tiny couch and tv. I do think there would be room for a dresser. Not much else storage space in the room though, but perhaps in the shared house.
Lets say you sleep for 8 hours a night and work for 8 hours a day. You have 8 hours left. You spend 2:30 commuting. You have 5:30 left. Vs the cheaper place, you have 6:20 left. Almost 1/5th more time in your day. That alone would make me choose it.
Yeah, the commute is a lot. I can wfh 2 days a week, but really I need to be in person for most of my work (as a practical matter, not a requirement from my employer).
how the fuck is you working from home her problem ? In my euro shit country she wouldnt even dare saying something like that
I agree 🤷🏻♂️ she is concerned about me using too much of the well water. Landlords in the US have too much power.
I agree 🤷🏻♂️ she is concerned about me using too much of the well water. Landlords in the US have too much power.
Of your available options, I would definitely go with the shared housing. That’s a great deal for your area and for your income. You could actually save/invest money.
And to the people pushing on you because you rent, oh my God what the heck? I hate housing as an investment, we bought a house but it’s so expensive to maintain and the taxes and insurance, having somewhere to live for $600 a month seems like a great deal, take it.
I would hate the hour long commute, personally. Very sensitive to commute time. But if you are already doing it and don’t mind, that’s a separate consideration.
Sharing bathroom and kitchen can be a hassle, but it’s much easier now than later (if you ever decide to start a family.)
I think that as long as the bathroom is half-decent I can tolerate the rest. Then again if it’s a nice and renovated place with old and mouldy bathroom it’s an absolute no-no even if the price is good.
The bathroom is nicer than my current one, but it is shared with two other people which would be a change for me.
whichever you pick, you’ll learn what you can and can’t do without. go cheap? learn faster
