Why don’t you tell these two “experts” to shut up and leave me alone?

I don’t know if each workplace is like this, but at my hospital people are very, extremely thin skinned and if somebody feels offended because I prefer to keep to myself and to learn instead of talking about their boring lives they start acting like teenagers: he is unfriendly, he doesn’t talk to me, he thinks he is better than me, can you believe that? and much worse stuff. It’s usually a minority but this minority is large enough so most of the neutral ones within the group are cowed into saying nothing, because otherwise they’re the ones being talked about and suddenly considered not a team player, not a good employee…

very sad but true.

It doesn’t make sense to work in a group that behaves like this, not worth my peace of mind.

It’s a common form of hazing.

jesus chirst, I just read the wikipedia article on hazing and now I’m scared.

You can’t control them, but you can refuse to engage at their jr high level.

they’ll badmouth me all the way to management.

better to stay where I am. Holy crap.

Why do people have to be like this?

and having to manage personalities full-time is not in my bandwidth

precisely, neither in mine.

That answer could gain you enemies even if you don’t even interview if it’s not kept confidential.

for sure. nurses can be this vicious

then you really have no idea what you’re talking about.

oh, you’re an moderator. thanks for not deleting this thread because it bothers you I guess.

what do you do in healthcare?

why does my post trigger you so much? calm down.

This is gen z…

ok boomer

So right up front, you want to inform your supervisors

they’re not my supervisors, they MIGHT be, though.

And you think that’s going to go well for you?

I don’t know how it’s going to go. What I don’t want is to work with those 2. Peace of mind is more important than advancing a career.

You call me weird for not wanting to work with people who drain me… well, all power to you.

Are you angry at me because I actually get to choose the people I work with? My actual gig is very light on the drama side. If somebody pesters me I get to leave that place.

and choose another candidate for the job.

good luck with that. You clearly don’t work healthcare. Are you a manager btw?

You don’t get to choose who you work with

actually I do, everybody does, you can quit, you can work part time, you can start looking for a job that better fits you and then either 2 week notice it or quit on the spot. You mean you’ve never met people who quit not the job itself but a manager, a charge or certain coworkers? I don’t know if YOU cannot choose the people you work with or you’re convinced you cannot do that, but everyone has a choice: in my case, either advance my career now accepting I have to deal with those 2 moronic gossips or either keep my current job and look for the next opportunity. A third option would be to fake give them the attention so desperately need for a minute and then go back to learning and ignore them. And a fourth one, do nothing, stay where I am without thinking about advancing my career. I’m sure you can choose as well, it’s only you’re convinced you cannot. Maybe you think it’s easier for you to stay where you are or you think changing might be too much of a hassle. Doing nothing and claiming you don’t get to choose who you work with like you do is also a choice.

Who told you that you could go through life without the minor inconvenience of having to deal with conflicting personalities?

Now you sound like a granddad or a mother who didn’t have it too good fully convinced everyone must have it as bad as you. Ironically, this happens way too often in nursing: you remind me of how old nurses act with the new grads.

Are you calling me entitled for wanting a quiet life? knock yourself out, but, are you implying you don’t want that? why?

you don’t get some protective bubble from the icky, inconvenient parts.

You’re being conformist. If everyone thought like you nobody would have changed jobs ever.

You sound angry. Are you angry?

it’s actually very sad that your post gets the most upvotes, it simply shows how disconnected, entitled and delusional you and those who upvote you are regarding healthcare.

Nothing surprises me anymore.

You don’t seem to understand that people have lives to live and not everyone has the luxury of pretending to be an armchair doctor or nurse like you. If you’ve never worked a 12 hour shift without pauses, with people blaming you for things you cannot change nor are your fault, with people trying to punch you and raising your voice when they feel inconvenienced you should shut up.

Go back to your ivory tower. No wonder nurses are looking for alternatives elsewhere.

happy downvoting

you have several good points but this ruined a good message:

where several people have failed her in a serious matter.

where did you get that from? an elective operation can be postponed if there are no doctors or anesthesiologists who can operate or if an emergency arises and somebody from the ER must be operated within minutes. She was told several times the new date for her fathers operation, she was told the hospital is not operating at full capacity due to doctors calling in sick but she didn’t want to hear it, she even tried storming the nurses room.

If my coworker gives in to every entitled relative who yells at her and treats her this way, either my coworker will resign or take leave due to depression, a coworker who was simply doing her job to the best of her abilities managing the 20 something operations that had to be readied for Monday next week. And she gets abused for that? And you condone the karen? This part of your post seems very tone deaf. My coworker didn’t even do her pause. It is her the one who deserves empathy, respect and my support, not the karen.

As a matter of fact, next time something like this happens I’ll stop working and be there for her ready to call in security and the cops. f*ck the karen.

I don’t know if you’re aware how nurses complain of being treated like crap, burnout, losing the empathy they had when they first started working, but people like this karen are the reason why. You only need one to ruin your day.

What do you call somebody who throws a fit if she doesn’t get what she wants?

you are right, but somehow I cannot stop ruminating about this. Just thinking about them and how I was treated infuriates me.

I must insist you read the thread again. I haven’t even started my new job.

Kindly point where I’m having the exact same issues at a new job I haven’t even started.

calm down, think before writing.

thank you

this is bed nursing specific

I don’t know if this is PTSD, but the mere mention of their names and remembering them infuriates me.

I know I should be better than this and leave the past behind me, but somehow I cannot.

At least I’m eating and resting well

This is like the 6th thread I’ve seen on here by you, every one almost identical in that you hate your job, you hate everyone there, everyone is mean to you, everyone else is lazy, etc

then read the thread again dude, apparently you didn’t notice I no longer work there

People won’t like you for it but you won’t care.

actually, some unidentified coworkers complained I’m not friendly and the way I speak is demanding.

My former supervisor seemed to care about this because she came to me with these accusations, repeatedly. I still don’t know if this something big enough to fire somebody.

I don’t care, don’t give a fuck but apparently hr does…

Don’t give a fuck attitude going forward is a must.

I’m gonna have to ask you to explain here:

I stopped giving a fuck about my coworkers 2 weeks before calling in sick, like, fuck them and I hope they burn in hell. If I ever have to set foot at that god forsaken piece of shit ward I’m calling in sick again. Fuck em.

I also don’t give a fuck about any of my former managers.

I don’t want to to say I don’t give a flying fuck about my current hospital, because I’m staying with them on a different role until I find something better, which may or may not happen, but it’s a clock in clock out and I’m fucking done with you and fuck you asshole situation

you suggest not giving a fuck even going forward? but I do need to give a fuck not to lose my new position until I have secured a newer one, right? I don’t even know if I’m going to hate the new position away from patients as much as the ward.

you other 3 bullet points are great though

so I’m going to have a way to work and sustain myself while doing some therapy?

Did you do therapy or simply started your new job and somehow your brain forgot that part of your former life? Talked to friends?

I’ll watch the video now

I don’t want to go to work dreading having to go to work, I don’t want to think about how I’m going to be yelled at, what snarky remarks I’m gonna have to hear, what coworkers are going to lazy around while I work and their sit on their asses, I don’t want to prepare a working plan for the day only to be completely ignored by a coworker that, while not my superior, feels and acts like it only because she’s been there longer than me.

I don’t want to go to work in fear.

this looks like PTSD now.

I want to go to work to do the job to the best of my abilities feeling rested, to do my pauses as stipulated in the contract, to avoid drama and go home.