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Cake day: October 19th, 2023
  • meter_kilo@lemm.eetoFunny@sh.itjust.works•True to character
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    11 months ago

    morality behind forgiveness isn’t about what’s good for other people

    I’m sorry you see it this way. All I did was try to point some random stranger on the internet to what I felt is right. If you don’t accept it that is ok. Hope your belief system works for you and as you said you have a peaceful life, so good for you.

    I understand that I can’t get my point through to you, so I’m not going to. I don’t know you enough to make this point so I could be completely wrong, but if I may make one remark, you tend to over assume things. Again I could be wrong, but that’s what I felt from the brief conversation.

    Also on the same lines, you don’t know me, and whatever crappy person you made up in your mind is, I’m not that. So I don’t care about those remarks you made. Those are just in your mind.

    Yes I accept it is a universal truth that positive feelings and peacefulness is good. And where I can help I will. Not because I think of myself as privileged or superior, because I have received help and forgiveness from others and I consider I owe it to others too.

    I’m not going to respond any more because I see no point. One last thing I would say is one day you and I will die (my friend, if I may). And it wouldn’t matter what was right or what was wrong, because in death, nothing matters. So all these thoughts that we have are just for the few years in between. Hope we sail those years without harming oneself and others.

    Wish you good life 👍

  • meter_kilo@lemm.eetoFunny@sh.itjust.works•True to character
    31·
    11 months ago

    First of all, I forgive you for not reading and trying to understand my point and abuse me by calling names. (There you go, you have an example when to forgive)

    I never mentioned forgiveness is the ultimate choice. Neither did I mention being assertive is. My point, to repeat, is this - the decision to take your action DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION. We should not blindly advocate “always forgive” or “always be assertive”. It ALWAYS and ALWAYS depends on the situation.

    What we should do is to have the mindset to take a step back and analyse the situation and choose the correct action.

    The example I gave is purely fictional and I don’t know how you are blindly taking a stance against such abusive elderly ? Maybe you have worked with elderly and maybe in those situations they deserve it, but how do you know the situation of everyone in the world ? How can you take that stance without having enough information about them.

    Again, please take a step back and try to understand my point.

  • meter_kilo@lemm.eetoFunny@sh.itjust.works•True to character
    82·
    11 months ago

    Everything depends on the situation. There is no one right answer.

    To give an example, lets say a person who has about a week left due to some incurable disease does something offensive to you. Will you go about asking for accountability or forgive them?

    It depends on how offensive the action was VS what the state of the person who did the action is. Regardless, you’ll need strength, either to hold accountable or to forgive the person.

    Either could be the right choice, but I’m saying life is not black and white, it’s mostly gray situations and people trying to call it black or white.