Hell yeah!

I noticed I wasn’t cis because I got a rush of happiness/euphoria from being called she/her by my friend after asking, and because recently I had started feeling discomfort/dysphoria towards my chest, it felt empty like something was missing and I realized it’s because I lack breasts and I wish I had them, it makes me sad that my chest is so flat.

I’m still happy and grateful you were able to help me this far. I probably never would’ve figured it out if it weren’t for you and the nice people here, thank you.

Edit: oh yeah, btw, having a penis on estrogen is a use-it-or-lose-it kinda thing. You’ll wanna make sure you’re regularly stimulating it.

Oh, I wasn’t aware of that, good to know though. I don’t think that’ll be an issue since it does regularly see use 😅 and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon.

Thank you for your kind words, I know that I can’t be too hard on myself and that I need to move on and start accepting the love. What I’ve done was not okay but I am a new person and I’m working to become better, and I will not make the same mistakes I made back then.

I don’t think guys normally get gender euphoria from being called she/her, or gender dysphoria from a lack of breasts. I’m very much not cis, not just because of what I said in the post but for other reasons as well. Reading through genderdysphoria.fyi I can say for certain that I’m not cis.

Yeah plus I learned that I do indeed have gender dysphoria from my chest, specifically it feels empty, like I should have breasts when I do not. I did a bit of reading on genderdysphoria.fyi and I think I can say with confidence that it’s very likely I am trans.

Okay, first of all, girls can like stuff like that too, so that doesn’t necessarily mean anything.

I know that now, but I didn’t always know that and before I used to think it meant that I’m a guy but I’m not so sure now.

Now: how did those questions make you feel? Did you feel guilty? Sad? Annoyed? Angry? Hurt? The intent of those questions was to see what your reaction would be to being doubted or questioned. Whatever you just felt, why did you feel it? Try to trace it back to its source.

Guilty, maybe a little bit confused. I feel guilty because I’ve been told that boys can’t want to be girls and part of me does indeed want to be a girl. I’ve always felt something was off, it started back when I was younger and would prefer to hang out with girls more than boys. People said it was weird and that I was weird for it but I still kept doing it because I felt like I related more with the girls than the boys. When I was younger I did want to get earrings, and while I know that boys would sometimes get one earring I didn’t like that idea. I wanted both ears pierced, but was told only girls do that, so I never did it, I felt sad that I couldn’t do it. The last question made me feel a bit scared and uncomfortable, I think I do want to be a woman but I don’t want to lose my penis, that would make me sad.

Oh, and it’s totally possible to have a girlcock (sorry for being an asshole earlier, I hope you understand what I was trying to do). Plenty of trans gals choose to keep theirs.

Really? That’s awesome I used to think that getting surgery or wanting it was required to be a trans woman. Thant changes everything. I see what you were trying to do, and thank you. I think it helped a lot.

Finally, see if you vibe with this: genderdysphoria.fyi/

I had a look through that and yeah I think I’m definitely trans. For more reasons than just the ones I talked about here. Thank you so much for helping me out.

I do not see the problem necessarily with promoting OF etc as sex workers do have to make money and that is their job, however the less savory people who are attracted by the types of porn I listed above do often have problematic views, so agree with you there.

It would be no different than allowing people to post ads here on Lemmy for Pepsi, Liberty Mutual, and HeGetsUs. If someone made ad accounts to post that shit you’d ban them as an admin, why is OF spam any different to you?

I agree, cloudflare is evil and antithetical to the idea of Fediverse. #BlockCloudflare

I just did a few hours ago.

You’re free to have your own opinion, I was a reactive angry person. I’m not denying responsibility for what I did back then.

Some shit I made up from a long ass time ago. I got over it and don’t rlly care anymore.

How do I do it in a way that Admins will actually see the reports? Active community mods seem to dismiss reports so they aren’t seen and there isn’t exactly a way to report it so only admins can see them.

I second that one, lemmynsfw is something else entirely. Not just that it’s porn but porn instances attract less savory people, especially bots and OF promoters (which are almost the same thing) so probably would be a good idea to axe them for instance health.

We don’t want to cut off our community from folks on these instances but if they’re causing a lot of trouble- we can certainly consider it

If that’s the case and there is a desire to have community reach maybe older defederations should be re-evaluated. But I wasn’t under the impression that it mattered much compared to safety of minority users and security of the instance.

I mean lemm.ee literally hosts a conservative community, which on occasion features borderline transphobia and homophobia. Right-wing stuff ya know. discuss.online has wide open sign-ups and has regularly had spammers, trolls, and assholes come and go. They are a liability. As far as I can tell Lemmy hasn’t gotten substantially better moderation tools since those last two big defederations, so the issues with these servers and servers like them are still valid and apparent.

Probably, I crossposted there as well.

lemm.ee has !conservative@lemm.ee a community which is allowed to thrive by the main admin of this server. Along with all their users. Does this really seem like a good idea guys?

No one cares, people can just put images in comments, that’s all custom emojis are anyways, just images in comments.