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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I’m no deeply educated kink guru, but the concept of fetishes always seemed a bit broad and fuzzy to me. Maybe some people really truly cannot experience sexual pleasure without engaging in their fetish, but for others it’s more of a very strong preference, or even just a space they’re excited about exploring.

    Sexuality is fluid and highly contextual. For me, there are elements of my sexuality that have shifted over the years but I still like novelty (“spicing things up” as they say) and (probably due to my religious upbringing) a certain thrill when it feels like one is doing something a little “wrong” or transgressive. Those don’t really lend themselves to set patterns or “fetishes” because if you do anything enough it can feel normal and routine.

    For somebody with a lot of enduring shame actually that might even “anchor” a fetish maybe, the ones who like things so transgressive that they will never be normalized in our society. Sex is weird.












  • Reddit is owned and controlled by a corporation (Condé Nast.) They disabled 3rd party Reddit apps to force people onto the official Reddit app which also broke many third party moderation tools. This disproportionately impacted power users, frequent posters, and mods-- in other words, the people who made Reddit the important community it was.

    They showed an unwillingness to listen to their community or work with the unpaid volunteer moderators, instead banning the moderators who took part in the Reddit Blackout and replacing them with mods willing to cooperate with the enshittification of the site.

    They’ve been mangling the web interface to be uglier and less usable (old.reddit.com is still up, but the mobile version of old.reddit.com is gone). They’ve been experimenting with ways to show more ads and subtler ads.

    Lemmy is open source and federated so it can’t get bought up by a company and cored out for shareholder value. You can use different instances, or a variety of apps. You can use (or create your own) third party tools for accessibility and moderation.

    Lemmy is currently a smaller universe than Reddit was, but it has a high ratio of good posters and moderators who care personally about their own communities, so hopefully it continues to grow.