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Cake day: August 7th, 2023

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  • Because what it actually means is the freedom for them to spew their hate speech without consequences. Freedom of their speech, not others’. They hate being “punished” for their hateful ideologies and view it as censorship. Being able to spread their hateful beliefs to large groups is extremely important in propagating it to other people. Conservative created platforms are inherently limited by the fact that their audience is not only quite small but also everyone there already believes their bullshit. They want and need to place their hate in mainstream places where others will see it and hopefully come to believe it

    There’s also the bonus effect of reducing both the amount and proportion of non-conservative voices.


  • I’ve been using gboard swiping for idk how many years now and I have no issues with it. There are some words that will less common to get right like say as vs ad or weed vs we’d but it’s so quick and easy to press the erase key and then swipe it again. If you do a swipe and then erase it, I’ve found that it never picks that word again no matter how many reswipes until you’ve decided on that word and moved on. So if I did want we’d but got weed earlier, weed goes back into the normal prediction priority or whatever as soon as I’ve moved past we’d.

    Or even if I swipe and it isn’t the right word, the autocorrect/autocomplete/suggestion bar will be words very similar to the swipe motion I did. I find it has the right word in that bar (if I didn’t get the right word in the first place) probably 90% of the time. Similar suggestions by swipe shape also remain for the duration of, eh… that keyboard session for lack of a better term? You lose it if you close the keyboard or switch apps. So if you’re just trucking along doing your swiping and notice later that it picked a word incorrectly, you can still go back to it and have the swipe shape-based recommendations.

    I have no idea if this stuff is how it works out of the box or if it’s because of customization settings I did but it works really well and makes phone typing pretty easy.


  • I’m just shelving online dating entirely for now. In months of obsessive swiping, it didn’t really go anywhere and overall just made me feel worse. At the very least meeting and making friends in person will have positives that online dating or online friending don’t have because dating apps are honestly kind of toxic to actually meeting people even if trying to do it for friends. I just didn’t know what else to try because I didn’t know how else to meet people but I found some options now.


  • I’m slowly learning to be less hard on myself about it. My friends tell me I sabotage myself by trying too hard due to some not great beliefs about myself (that each “failure” in dating then serves to reinforce) so I’m trying to take their advice, scale that back, and just focus on making new friends for now. I’ll have to see how it goes for my mental health and I’m turn ability to not self sabotage over time but it feels like a better approach than my previous obsessively browsing 5 different apps for hours a day desperate for a match at least







  • I’ve met people only online so far as well. Dating apps can lead to actual dates sometimes lol. There are also always local meet up groups whether for particular interests or just for general singles. For example, I went to a local LGBT meetup group recently and it seems like the kind of thing where relationships can develop organically from the friends I hope to make there. Taking a perspective of friends first can help with dating prospects too imo



  • Before I came out, I was absolutely convinced that family would never accept me. I was raised in an extremely conservative Christian household and my family still is. My parents struggled a fair bit to accept it but now a year later, they’re pretty good about name and pronouns. My mom was faster than my dad who didn’t really talk to me for a few months after. Extended family was so much better than expected as well and only my grandfather has rejected me, which my dad will never do anything about. He keeps to himself about any anti-trans feelings he has and I know he doesn’t fully accept it but that’s still a much better outcome than I ever expected.

    Sometimes things go better than we fear. I suppressed for almost 10 years because of fears of familial rejection but there comes a point that we just can’t deny ourselves anymore. I hope you’re able to transition and keep everything you want but sometimes the pain of not being able to be ourselves is too much no matter how hard we try.