

I went no contact with my dad in 2009 after he refused to come to my wedding because he “doesn’t like weddings” (my mother says he did it to hurt her, even though she preferred his absence).
He never took much of any interest in my life before that moment, either. It wasn’t until after my second child (my son) was born that he suddenly gave a shit about my family and wanted photos of the kids so that he could show off his grandson.
We refused. He got angry. I told him, in clear words, that he made the choice to never be part of my family, and he had never earned the right to have access to my children. He is a stranger to us.
He calls me selfish for this. He replied that he’ll be taking me out of his will, as if I was ever in it to begin with.
Boomers, man…
The inner monologue was valid. However I think your plan backfired…