For just yourself? Get a domain that you can actually remember and use and then set up a WireGuard server (I recommend the Linuxserver.io WireGuard image)

Use that to access your stuff

Do you have 1 thing you desparately need to be publicly accessible? VLAN the VM off so it’s on its own and put a reverse proxy in front of it with HTTPS (and ideally MFA if you need auth)

How do people store the streams from the camera that Frigate subscribes to? I was considering storing this in my in-network NAS. I have few zfs volumes on one of my machines which I use as my NAS, but not sure if there is a different recommended NAS storage that works better with Frigate?

Local storage on my host (4TB SSD in my case, but a 4TB drive would work fine)

I have Home Assistant running on my Raspberry Pi in the network. To what level does Frigate integrate with NAS?

Aside from compute and storage from running the container on there? Not much

How are all of you interacting with Frigate? Browser, mobile app, TV, etc. ?

The web server it provides works great for playback of footage, clips and exporting video

It’s also excellent for editing the config

What kinds of notification mechanisms Frigate supports - email, push notifications, etc. ? I guess Home Assistant can be used for this part?

Anything that works with MQTT should work

Am I doing something against the grain here? Anything simpler I should be considering?

Everything seems sane so far, just read the Frigate docs and you’ll be fine

Yep OP is right, but OP didn’t mention the fucking disasterous WireGuard implementation they tried to pull off

God that was a mess

This is yet another reminder to tick off “switch to OPNsense” on my to do list