Not sure if you saw the meme though.

Yeah I definitely saw the meme alright. From within my little bubble… while riding public transport. I had to contain my laughter so hard it hurt. The censorship just made it even better. Also definitely a mood I’m not unfamiliar with.

I really want to have girl and trans girl friends irl. I want to be around fem people that can maybe help me with girl stuff like fashion, and trans girl stuff like passing. So in the hypothetical, I’d probably want trans girl friends first.

Yeah I definitely get that. I feel like making trans girl friends is the safest way to get into that stuff because at the very least you’re sure they won’t have a wildly unpredictable reaction to the “hey, BTW I’m trans” revelation (depending on where you are with respect to transitioning of course). I definitely feel like I could use some real life trans girl friends, even if it were just to express myself more freely like I do on here. The big issue is actually finding them when you’re not ready to commit to something like going to local support groups.

So sorry to hear about your social circle breaking down. Sounds like it is for the best though, and I’m willing to bet any new friends you’ll gain will probably be better for you in the long run. I’ve been through a similar situation where I’ve pretty much not retained any friendships growing up. Every friend I’ve made since has been great so far, even though I still don’t maintain many friendships. Bottom line is there’s always hope, just gotta find the right people.

I do admit, the title is actually kinda clickbaity in hindsight. Probably could’ve done better.

You really need to see Her if you haven’t yet. Like seriously.

Went to IMDB to look it up and the front page featured a spotlight of the new Joker movie (starring… you guessed it!). Movie seems interesting, definitely going to watch sometime soon!

• Sexuality: Yes lol.

Sometimes less is more. xD

I could use some girl friends irl, or just friends in general.

Yeah, no harm in making some friends. Issue is just “where do you start?”, dream is to be magically adopted into a nice friend group, but things just don’t work like that usually. Or at least they don’t when you’re sober.

Hypothetically, if you had unlimited options with infinite success rates, what kind of friends would you add to your social circle first? Girl friends, guy friends, trans friends, enby friends, neurodivergent friends, nerd friends, or any other brand of friends I haven’t listed?

Would definitely offer you my friendship application! If you feel like chatting, DM me and I’ll send you my matrix details.

Nah, society is just a bunch of idiots smashing rocks together, and we all stare at the ones with the biggest or the shiniest rocks. That does not mean your enjoyment of playing with sticks is invalid.

And this is in no way an attempt to put people into discrete boxes. The body might fit for most, but then there’s the pesky tail that sticks out. It’s those quirks that make us unique that I’m after here, and testing the limits of your model is one way to do it.

The beauy of n-dimensional space is that you can just add dimensions if you feel like you’re being projected into lower-dimensional space and details get lost in translation.

But there’s also the thing where the act of taking a measurement affects the thing being measured, so “n-ball of uncertainty” is perfectly fine!

More bitches? We definitely have a problem!

How does that work if you’ve only been a hot girl for half of your life? Asking for a friend of course.

As a model for infinitely unique human characteristics that can be plotted along several different dimensions, the vector representation makes a lot of sense.

But as with anything that models reality, some of the nuance is lost because we can’t feasibly infinitely detail the model for it to still be a useful representation.

So no, you’re not crazy for framing gender as a vector space, you’re just a huge nerd. 😇

(Edit: Now complete the assignment! [glares at you from a distance])

Hi Bitches, I’m the problem…? Wait…

Probably not the person you might want answering this, but I’ll share my two cents anyway:

I believe men are somehow shit outta luck if not conforming to the strong, tall, muscular, athletic and handsome ideal that seems to be peak masculinity. Although there seems to be an improvement on that front. Further normalising the androgynous look is going to help a lot of transmasc people feel less anxiety about passing. Not in the least because some of these aspects about the general beauty standard for men are unrealistic, even for cis men.

As for me, I’m more than happy to contribute to normalise the androgynous look. I’ve never been happier with my appearance than since I’ve been experimenting with incorporating more feminine traits. Growing my hair out, getting a more feminine haircut, dyeing my hair, braiding my hair, removing body hair, styling eyebrows, that sort of thing. Oh, and most important of all, just doing all of this while never elaborating on it. It’s always just “hey this is my new thing, I will not be taking questions on this”.

I feel like men should not be denied those sorts of thing while still being considered men. And all of us should be free to pursue our own beauty standards. Now to make society submit to those truths…

Seeing all the recent news I can’t help but feel the US is not a fun place to be right now.

I sincerely hope the political landscape calms the fuck down soon, and all of you can focus on the real issues again. It is beyond unreasonable how much attention some of these culture war topics are getting. It is also obviously a divide and conquer strategy and someone needs to break that cycle.

Are you applying for a job that has you representing the company to the public in any way? If so, you might find yourself less free in your appearance than you would if you have a desk job. And it’s likely not just about being trans, but other things like piercings, tattoos and hair styles as well.

I’m not sure how well woker’s rights are represented in law, either on a state basis or in the USA in general. But you might want to consider finding out with the interview if your potential employer really respects you being trans or not, even if you do so without actually mentioning you’re trans. And if not I’m inclined to say the job is not a safe place for you. If you leave this up to chance, you might be in for a nasty surprise later on in your career there.

But I guess it all depends on how long you can afford to look for a job where you’re going to be respected for who you really are. If you need work fast, there’s also the option of just taking the job stealthily and almost immediately looking for a new job from there. All while pocketing the employment experience, which definitely helps your chances finding other work.

Ultimately there are two things you need to prove in an interview (if you’re dealing with reasonable people and not bigots): Whether your personality doesn’t make you clash with the colleagues you’ll be working with. Wether your skillset matches what the employer is looking for, and employers have this bad habit of not mentioning wanted soft skills in the ad.

Do those two well and the only thing ruining your chances is your potential employer being a twisted bigoted piece of shit, in which case it’s their loss.

Next level truck nuts. 🤣

Haha, somehow there is always a relevant XKCD.

Ah see, you got me there. I’ll be sure to keep that in mind and do things very gayly from now on.

Oh yes, definitely. Having rough edges, or a bad side humanizes a character, which has been proven to lead to more relatable and likeable characters. It’s the driving force behind the whole antihero thing.

The good examples are definitely out there, but all of them are niche and the problem is likely that big productions are afraid of taking a risk by not trying to please everyone. Which also explains why recent large productions all have this shitty writing that feels artificial. Doesn’t matter if it’s feminism, LGBTQ+ themes, representation of ethnic minorities or just the cookie cutter cis white protagonist. They manage to enshittify everything by playing it safe.

That’s a nice take! It is indeed the absurdity of it all that probably does it. My comment was more of a shower thought inspired by this post than a direct reaction to it.

As you can probably tell from my choice of pronouns, I’m still figuring out what the concept of “being gay” even means to me. Though there’s probably no point to doing so. Which only makes being called gay even funnier to me.

That, and of course the ridiculous concepts of what does and does not make you gay, that are going around. But that’s part of the original joke.

Anyone else feel like there have been so many different ways the word “gay” has been used as a slur - both ironically and unironically - that the whole concept just kinda doesn’t work anymore?

The only response my brain produces these days is just giggling and moving on. Like if your intentions are to shock me, I’m afraid that ship has sailed. Best thing I can compare it to is how poop jokes stop being funny when you hit a certain age, and start being a different kind of funny once you hit another.

But it probably really depends on your environment. Obviously if you do feel negatively about the whole, that’s a completely valid stance to take. Don’t think of this as me trying to ifluence what should and should not offend you.

Nothing wrong with a proper scream every now and then. Venting is a healthy practise.

The average European can merely dream of experiencing the freedom to inhale a microburger.

That’s okay, the average American can merely dream of experiencing the culture of inhaling all our different junk food fumes. So that makes us even?

Alright, that settles it.

OP, we have questions!

Yeah that’s a good point. That’s what I would call intelligent design. Take that, creationists!

The “shouldn’t” aspect is more directly applicable to different kinds of kinks or fetishes. Anyone who has experienced what the… uh [checks notes]… “fun button” has to offer will probably tell you that the whole situation is not a coincidence.

Or so I’ve heard… (they’ll buy that, right?)

Hahah thanks for the advice! I’m not really worried about dating. I wasn’t kidding about these qualities being endearing to me though. So I guess you can count that as proof that someone out there will like you for who you are?

Yeah, that doesn’t sound like I’m hitting on strangers on the internet, right?