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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Work on your negative self-talk.

    Each time you remember something and cringe or insult yourself, you overwrite that memory with you feeling shitty about it. It’s a terrible feedback mechanism.

    Instead, laugh at your silly mistakes, celebrate your successes and failures, and forgive yourself.

    It will take a long time to unwind the stuff you have done to yourself, but this is one technique you can just start doing - recognize when you are beating yourself up and do a little better.




  • I thought I was dying in my 30s.

    I have IBS and it just skyrocketed in its effects on me over a period of a few years. Doctors had no clue.

    I lost my job, went bankrupt, and had a lost decade.

    Turned out I had a hernia that turned my IBS into regular intestine blockages. Public benefits paid for the surgery, and here I am almost twenty years later. (Worth noting that I met a woman who never thought she would find love or get married, and she demanded I get the surgery.)

    I am back to being unemployed and need some simple remote work, so if anyone has ideas, much appreciated.







  • And if you don’t want to leave your house a ton, find online hobbies that let you find and meet people, like card games, board games, roleplaying games, etc.

    Granted I had my board gaming friends but when COVID hit and we couldn’t play, I made a D&D campaign for them.

    We had never played that together before but everyone was in, and one of the players had never played but had read a ton of novels (Dragonlance, Frizzy [Drizzt!], etc) and was fully committed.

    Now we have all taken turns as the DM, and two of us usually swap out for our own stories.