In the desktop space, all of those secondary and tertiary timings being auto-set to something reasonable depends on the specific RAM kit being on that motherboard model’s QVL. I have no idea if something similar is at play here, but if so, it could explain people getting poor results with anything other than 5600 MHz RAM similar to or better than what Framework sells.
I’ve been in a position to appreciate this as well - if you get lucky and no electronics are damaged, it’s possible to strip all of them out and bend/hammer the aluminum back into shape without fear of causing further damage.