Definitely android does this better and i found it very annoying when I switched to iPhone this year

I can’t have the phone vibrate, but make no sound when I get a notification, without that affecting other system sounds?

This is not a question this is not a real choice. Do you need a phone or a pseudo work device?

What do you actually need

It is. But what I find works most reliably is clicking on the space bar until the cursor appears, then while holding the spacebar with another finger moving it across the keyboard. That will bring up the selection and then you can take the finger of the spacebar and just select what you want

I would like to have a period there always. I don’t know why they keep insisting in changing they keyboard layout in different apps. It doesn’t make it easier it makes it confusing and messes with muscle memory