This person assholes

I don’t think permits would fix the veneration of force, ideal of the rugged individualist protecting their family from constant threat, or deep distrust of others tho.

https://www.reuters.com/sustainability/sustainable-finance-reporting/air-canada-flight-attendants-try-build-us-gains-unpaid-work-2025-08-06/

Air Canada (AC.TO), flight attendants want to make gains on unpaid work that go beyond recent advances secured by their U.S. counterparts, a union leader said on Wednesday, in a fresh test of the way airlines compensate cabin crews.

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New labor agreements at American Airlines (AAL.O), and Alaska Airlines (ALK.N), legally require carriers to start the clock for paying flight attendants when passengers are boarding, not when the flight starts to taxi down the runway. Those gains came after Delta Air Lines (DAL.N), whose flight attendants are not in a union, instituted boarding pay for its cabin crew at half of their hourly wages in 2022 when they were trying to organize.

Yup. Many don’t know prison labour is a thing in canadian prisons either. Who builds the office furniture for the public service? Oh yeah, it’s Corcan!

Canadians love the boot, too.

These locks are so cool and I love the bike trail along them 😍

Awesome pic!

It’s so pretty! I learned about this plant on the weekend after I noticed it for the first time in a provincial park.

Yes, exactly. These are considered negative by some traditionalist women because they erode the family.

I just misspelled the spelling in your photo

Is someone going to repackage every single leninaide bottle to a slightly different name while still making reference to leninaide?

• I had 5 years of therapy for depression/anxiety. Neither ADHD nor Autism were ever brought up by my therapist. I got better at dealing with both but it seems to be along the lines of having got bored of myself being held back by it and having developed the discipline to push through.

I don’t really feel comfortable chiming in on if people “are” autistic or ADHD but I did want to comment on this. I wouldn’t take it as a sign you aren’t. I have been in impatient mental health treatment twice, once as a young teen and once in my 20s and it never came up. Got told I had depression, then bipolar, then BPD but I didn’t really think any of them fit? If anything I’m too flippant about relationships? That one felt really off to me but it came up after spending 2 years trying all sorts of drug combos for bipolar and nothing working. And that effectively stopped medication attempts.

I started therapy again in my late 30s and after a few years I was like, maybe I have ADHD??? And my therapist was like, “and autism!” that one surprised me but it’s been a few years since then and I’m going through the formal diagnosis now.

I think one of the reasons it’s missed is people aren’t looking for it. I don’t know your gender but I do really think it’s missed a lot in girls and also more nerdy folks because they can be reserved or just “shy”. I’m just “awkward”. What they don’t see is how distraught I get when I get home after events and get so angry at myself for fucking up every social interaction 😬

I guess i am mostly asking because i still feel like there is some “glass pane” or so between me and most other people. Even if have mostly positive interactions and people usually feel genuinely happy to see me, i feel like forming deeper connections remains difficult. I also feel less inclined to bother trying, even though at times i wonder if it is sufficient to have my wife and two close friends.

I think you need more than your spouse and it seems like you have that, which is great! What I am finding is that I think it’s good to have some casual friends or acquaintances. People with common interests you see sometimes doing those interests. Super low effort but you still have contact with more people with defined tasks and things to talk about. I volunteer. Sports or clubs are good too.

So after all this off my chest, i would be happy if you could help me with something to read up on regarding Autism and ADHD and milder or “well adjusted” cases of either. Would it make sense to pursue a diagnosis/treatment? Is there any point in treatment, if life generally is good?

I only sought it when my life was falling apart, lol. I was and am so burnt out. I’m an engineer and I manage engineers. I don’t know if I’m just noticing it for the first time but now that I am in my 40s I’m seeing more and more engineers in their late 30s to early 50s in autistic burnout, which is different than the burnout you hear about more often. I suspect one of my previous bosses had it looking back. I knew she was on leave but it was super vague but remembering her and how she was and then going through it myself, I wouldn’t be surprised.

I’ve also known some people that I would say are pretty clearly autistic and either by choice or luck fell into a life that accommodates it and it never becomes an issue. One highly successful engineer I know is also religious in a faith practice that venerates a loving active involvement in your family so he could never work himself to death because it was his duty to be there for his kids and wife. I’m not a fan of religion but I’m glad it worked out for him!

That’s a super long way of saying I don’t think you need diagnosis or treatment (what treatment, lol???) if life is good. If you are starting to feel exhausted then it might be handy to know what autistic burnout is so you can swerve it. What’s been most helpful to me is the ADHD meds (they work like antidepressants/antianxiety meds for me, the way actual antidepressants/antianxiety meds didn’t) and also understanding that typical productivity tricks etc are not going to work for me. I’m still learning how to know when I need a break and being able to take them, but at least I know that’s what I need to do.

The “what treatment” is kind of a joke but not really. Perhaps others in the comm have better experience but the resources for autistic adults are super slim to non-existent where I am. In terms of what I am pursuing, I’m hoping for help to figure out what kind of accommodations will work for me. The diagnosis will help me get the accommodations. I’m in therapy and trying to learn to unmask (sometimes) and learn to get in better touch with my body to know what it needs, and also to calm my nervous system. I have two therapists (kind of long story, won’t get into it) and I think it’s important to have a therapist that gets neurodivergents or else you’ll get told to use a planner lol. One therapist is hip enough to neurodivergence to have put me on the path to diagnosis and the other is autistic herself and she’s helping me learn to live as an autistic person.

TL;DR: it’s not a problem until it’s a problem and it doesn’t become a problem for everyone so you do whatever feels right!

LMAO I “found out” when I was sobbing at the bench press about how I couldn’t even exercise properly because I had gotten up to do dishes mid set. I saw some memes about ADHD brains and I was like, oh maybe that’s what’s wrong with me…

Welcome, friend

It is, mostly. It’s much closer to an RV park than the hike distance would have you believe. We assume that’s where the firework noises were coming from yesterday.

We are camping! And carrying way too much but honestly the 3 person tent is worth it.

That’s my partner and his pack, mine is similar.

I was so convinced I ruined my hearing with rock and roll music but no, my brain just don’t work good.

I was seriously concerned about my ability to do this hike, especially while carrying way too much stuff, and with younger and fitter friends, but then I remembered I literally do not know how to stop. So I used that for recreation instead of work and I survived. Just need to hike back out tomorrow.

I fluctuate between:

• “I’ve been doing this for a long time”
• “I’m very good at googling”
• “Autism”

It’s me. I’m disorder.

I literally used meme generator

I found this article helpful: https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/medical-critical-thinking-health-and-nutrition/mitochondrial-dysfunction-bit-fad

It’s basically “they don’t work good” but it’s become a fad to blame all sorts of things on their dysfunction.