I get that some people feel much safer in segregated company and if folks are enjoying that good for them, but to be honest I find the entire concept outdated at this point; these spaces just feel like not really living freely imho.
It’s more that it’s a bar that’s focused in its purpose. Gay people are a minority, so it’s practical to create a place where you know you’re more likely to find other gay people. Not just for romance, but just for having a community hub to find a social network and support specific to being a gay woman, rather than having to “filter” for it.
In a similar way that a dance club and a pub are for different demographics, the dance club gives people who want to dance a place to all go, and a pub gives a space for people who just want a quiet drink and some chips.
Yeah, I do see that. Though I would obviously not go to ANY pub (straight or gay) if my primary interest was to just dance.
At this stage of my life though, my confidence in who I am and how I want to live long ago moved me away from limiting my support circle to gay only communities or places. I find the mere idea even incredibly stifling and borderline offensive. This has more to do with my age and past experience with such things I suppose; I am probably much older than most people commenting here I imagine.
I live in San Francisco as well, so I don’t feel like I am in a minority. I mean yes, we probably are? but in context we have one of the highest percentages of LGBTQ population than any us city…so I don’t see myself in such terms as minority anymore. I don’t “filter” my exposure in social circles either - I just take things as they come. As a Euro transplant also, this comes second nature to me since there are cultural and linguistic differences I have also had to deal with.
Either way, I am glad that people who enjoy lesbian bars are finding more of them. I personally just wanted to express that I don’t find the concept of segregation appealing - even if there are safety or social benefits in it.
Meh, it’s nice to have a space that feels like it’s designed with my needs in mind, rather than being an after thought (and that’s the best case scenarios)
I get that some people feel much safer in segregated company and if folks are enjoying that good for them, but to be honest I find the entire concept outdated at this point; these spaces just feel like not really living freely imho.
It’s more that it’s a bar that’s focused in its purpose. Gay people are a minority, so it’s practical to create a place where you know you’re more likely to find other gay people. Not just for romance, but just for having a community hub to find a social network and support specific to being a gay woman, rather than having to “filter” for it.
In a similar way that a dance club and a pub are for different demographics, the dance club gives people who want to dance a place to all go, and a pub gives a space for people who just want a quiet drink and some chips.
Yeah, I do see that. Though I would obviously not go to ANY pub (straight or gay) if my primary interest was to just dance.
At this stage of my life though, my confidence in who I am and how I want to live long ago moved me away from limiting my support circle to gay only communities or places. I find the mere idea even incredibly stifling and borderline offensive. This has more to do with my age and past experience with such things I suppose; I am probably much older than most people commenting here I imagine.
I live in San Francisco as well, so I don’t feel like I am in a minority. I mean yes, we probably are? but in context we have one of the highest percentages of LGBTQ population than any us city…so I don’t see myself in such terms as minority anymore. I don’t “filter” my exposure in social circles either - I just take things as they come. As a Euro transplant also, this comes second nature to me since there are cultural and linguistic differences I have also had to deal with.
Either way, I am glad that people who enjoy lesbian bars are finding more of them. I personally just wanted to express that I don’t find the concept of segregation appealing - even if there are safety or social benefits in it.
Meh, it’s nice to have a space that feels like it’s designed with my needs in mind, rather than being an after thought (and that’s the best case scenarios)