• JoshuaSlowpoke777@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I mean, I agree with the meme completely, but I’d also want to turn around in their arms and cuddle them right back. I’m a fan of both hugging and being hugged, and it might be a sensory thing.

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      10 months ago

      I’m not huge of cuddling and tend to get overheated easily when I do, but I find it really pleasurable (non-sexually) when my wife runs her finger/fingernail on my hand or arm. Just light touch in general feels incredibly stimulating, but it’s kind of a weird thing to outright ask for so I just kind of enjoy it when it comes around. I also like when my kid steps on my arms, legs or feet when climbing on me. I should probably look into massage therapy.

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        10 months ago

        You feel how you feel but just wondering why this feels like such a weird thing to ask for? My own partner told me he enjoys that kind of light touch (also sensorially rather than sexually) and I try to do it whenever I think about it, and it makes me happy that he’s enjoying it, and it’s not like it’s a struggle for me.

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          10 months ago

          I don’t honestly know why it feels so weird. I guess maybe because it feels a little self-serving and silly. Like, asking for a massage serves a function to relieve muscle tension. But asking for stimulating tickles on my arm makes me feel self-conscious for some reason.

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            10 months ago

            Please tell her. I’m sure she will be glad to know that you like it, and will do it more often.

            For me it’s the opposite, light touches give me discomfort, and firm touches with pressure are comforting from a sensory experience. Talking about it with your partner is really important.

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              10 months ago

              I second telling her!

              And I’m also one for firm squeezes instead. Light touches make me overstimulated. All the light touches for my partner instead!

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        10 months ago

        Hey yeah I’m a massage therapist we will do anything you ask as long as it’s not sexual or doesn’t go beyond the boundaries of the standard sheet-draping protocols.

        I’m not suggesting you seek me out specifically, but just letting you know that any massage therapist is trained to meet the needs of the customer. Within the scope of our licensure.

        There is a basic protocol and flow that we all generally follow, which DOESN’T include light tickly touches or scratching or squishing or climbing but you CAN request such things if that’s what you like.

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          That’s cool to know. I don’t think I would be comfortable seeking the touch/grazing part from a therapist, but I’ve never had a professional massage and I feel like I’d really benefit from one. My legs especially. I figure it’s due to being on my feet full-time at my job, but pushing and dragging my palms along my quads before bed every feels incredible.