• scarilog@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      Tbf it’s been one day and OP thinks they got ghosted, when in reality there might be tons of different reasons why he hasn’t got a reply yet

      • Cethin@lemmy.zip
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        10 months ago

        Yeah, but just before new years? They were wanting new years plans, and they probably made some.

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              10 months ago

              Why though¿? I understand preferring to take the lead but why do men actually hate it when women take the lead¿?

              • Thief_of_Crows@sh.itjust.works
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                10 months ago

                The same reason cave men didn’t try to eat the gazelle that was lying right next to their cave for 2 days. All the ones who did eat it, died. When things feel too easy, it sets off alarms that suggest it might not be as good as it seems. Men don’t actually hate it, it just tends to set off their inborn defenses. If you want to take the lead on a man, try to show him that he’s done something to earn your affection. Probably most applicable to strangers.

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              10 months ago

              Those men are terrible, and ruin things for the rest of us.

              My now-wife sent the first message, and I’m so glad she did. It was super rare even close to a decade ago.

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      10 months ago

      Not sure why the downvotes, this is a likely scenario. Back when I was bothering with the app, I realized this quickly. There seems to be a line if at which point you’re still gabbing but not meeting up, either party is likely to move on.

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        10 months ago

        Good thing I’m too depressed to have used dating apps. I’d probably be sitting here thinking about times that happened to me. But I know better, nothing can happen, even bad things, if I’m isolated enough.