I used to struggle with accepting compliments until I learned that “Well, that feels nice to hear” expressed using whatever tone is appropriate for the moment/compliment giver works in practically every instance.
You can branch out into other more healthy ways of accepting compliments from there!
Well, that feels nice to hear. 🙄
But how do you get over the feeling that they are just trying to manipulate you?
I’m not a therapist, so I wouldn’t know for sure. But I have dealt with a lot of my own trust issues by remembering that I can control the way that I show up, but I can’t control the way other people do.
If I think someone might have questionable intent with how they engage with me, that’s their business. The way I behave in response is my business.
It’s reframed the way I interact with folks in a lot of ways. I can deal with manipulative people to whatever extent I must, but then be like, “Okay, peace,” instead of being drawn into whatever bullshit they have going on.
That’s just me, though. Everyone’s experiences and relationships are different. I hope you’re well!
My pronouns are none. I don’t have any. Please do not refer to me.
Literally posts this on Twitter, where the only thing you get is criticism and compliments.
Good luck passing off your social ineptitude onto everyone else your whole life, instead of addressing the problems
Do you normally misjudge jokes as sincere statements, and assume a narrative based on that misunderstanding?
A sort of charming and self deprecating statement about one’s disability (ADHD) is often more socially acceptable than, well… what you said.
If you find yourself missing social cues often, such as the fact that the above post is clearly in jest - perhaps you should work on figuring that out.
Ah yes in the world of shit mental health care people need to just get their mental health figured out.
Boomer thought process.
Not my intention, but if you post shit like that on social media, essentially shrugging it off and making it someone else’s problem, yea, that’s on you. Mental health is a huge issue, one I’ve dealt with myself, but saying “oh, yea I’m fucked up, deal with it” is bullshit.
Good luck not being a dickead with that chode at the end of your neck
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