This is for people that I live with.
I don’t mean any lame team building exercises, but casual group activities. It could be something mundane like organizing a trip to the store together. Movie trips would also be fine as would showing something on the home projector, though I feel like there’d be more distractions and temptation at home.
It’d depend on the severity of their autism and stuff.
But going for a walk together or anything without big crowds. If they’re ok with crowds, go shopping together or something. Any normal activity can be ok unless they’re the type to get overstimulated.
We could go to the grocery store or a movie at a time when it’s not busy.
We could go for walks somewhere but it would take a collection of mopeds and e-bikes going at e-bike speed because there’s not a good walk place from the house. I think a group walk at night when it’s quiet would be good.
There’s one roommate with noticeable autism and I wouldn’t call it very severe but he could be trying to hide it.
There’s one roommate with noticeable autism and I wouldn’t call it very severe but he could be trying to hide it.
Is there any public transportation in the area and do they feel comfortable riding on it? If so and if they’re receptive to it, you could potentially “collect” transit lines, where you ride one line from beginning to end to see the view outside, potentially explore the areas along the route, and “collect” routes and corridors they’re explored, take pictures (of the surroundings if they themselves don’t like being photographed), and basically explore different parts of the city that way. Usually most transit networks are fairly quiet at night as well.
Obviously the viability of this depends on what level of transit network you have, the more extensive and built-up the better since that can reach more places faster.
Unfortunately it’s hard to really weigh in without knowing the individuals. There are alot of factors. A hypersensory person with autism would be completely different from a hyposensory person with autism. And that’s just one factor that would make a huge difference. You might have to involve them in any plans to find out what is a no-go for each of them.
But with that in mind, knowing that any one of these could be immediately shot down: Arcades, Bowling, Zoo/Aquarium, Go-Karts. For cheaper stuff; visiting a pet store, seasonal local festival/event type stuff, a group bike ride on a park trail. Stuff that really depends on personalities and interests but gonna suggest them anyway as it might not be something a normal person would think of; the type of party that highschoolers would have thrown back in their day(junk food, music, party games), a drive out to a local train crossing when a train is scheduled to cross(depending on interest level).
In my experience VR is currently much more popular among the Autistic crowd, so if you can either go to a VR arcade, or have access to a VR headset. That might be something to ask about.
But yeah, ultimately, it’s really hard to know as we’re all largely completely different. The few “commonalities” aren’t pervasive, just more likely.
I have two headsets but I’m not sure how many games are compatible between the two platforms. Anything with crossplay between the Quest and Steam should work.
High school type parties of video games and junk food can be fun but they can also be underwhelming.
Whatever you do, I think that having a discussion, whether formal or informal, about expectations beforehand would be beneficial. Ideas for topics to discuss would be:
- How long will you be there/gone for
- What will be proper and improper discussion topics
- Attire
- What to do if someone feels uncomfortable about the place or someone
- Things people can bring to feel comfortable (fidget toys, hoodies, ear phones, etc.)
- Cool things about the place you are going/things you will be doing (this one is my favorite)
- Any other suggestions?
I would be interested to know how it went and if you learned anything from it. Please make a new post if you would like to share.
If it’s people with asbergers or “higher functioning” autism, I honestly think riding public transit could have some potential. Stereotype of autists being into trains or elevators aside, as someone who suspects they have autism and is also extremely into trains and transit in general, I find that it really does calm me to ride transit so I do it for fun. When hanging out with friends (not super frequent) I still constantly find myself enjoying the parts where we’re just on the bus going somewhere the most, as in we’re just chatting, pointing to things out the window, commenting on the public transit system, things like that. Especially if you know at least some of them do have interests along those lines, it could at least be an option you can throw out there.
My go to activities are:
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Getting out on nature, running water is a big plus, hiking, kayaking, etc.
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Board/party games have improved a ton over the last 20 years. Some simple fun games that take a minute or less to teach: telestrations, just one, banagrams
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D&D or other role playing, this is a really easy way to engage in social interaction that is lower pressure (at least for me) and fun.
Those are good ideas. I like the idea of a camping trip, but it might be hard to get everyone into it. My sister has a pickup truck that we could take with everything we need.
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Not an exact answer to your question, but:
One of the most important parts of e.g. company events was that I have a place for retreat; and acceptance of everyone that when I leave for a while nobody would stop me.
Ensure they know that you won’t be angry if they leave (early or even just for a few minutes).
And maybe even see beforehand if there are places that are suitable for such a retreat, which depends on each person individually but at least for me almost any park/canal/whatever-is-marked-as-green-on-a-map is suitable as long as there are parts with only few people.
Are you gonna charge them for the privilege?
If I was getting feedback that people felt like they didn’t have money to go out to the movies, I’d probably put down money to buy everyone popcorn and soda so they could go and get something nice there. I wouldn’t mind doing that once per month.
