I guess I’m just lucky that I have great friends and family. When my wife and I separated last year, my friends and family were constantly checking up on me. After I went to detox and got sober from alcohol, my friends and family were and still are checking up on me often, even though life is good and I have my wife back. It really is amazing, and I’m very thankful.
I think it also has a lot to do with the influence of patiarchy and toxic masculinity on the grieving person.
If you managed to push back against some of society’s expectations on men, know how to express more emotions than “angry” and “horny” and have shown vulnerability in the past, people will find it much easier to approach you.
On the other hand, if someone is working super hard to keep up their “manliness”, you may realize that they’re struggling, but you’ll have reservations about tearing down the crumbling facade they’re desparately trying to preserve.
I guess I’m just lucky that I have great friends and family. When my wife and I separated last year, my friends and family were constantly checking up on me. After I went to detox and got sober from alcohol, my friends and family were and still are checking up on me often, even though life is good and I have my wife back. It really is amazing, and I’m very thankful.
I think it also has a lot to do with the influence of patiarchy and toxic masculinity on the grieving person.
If you managed to push back against some of society’s expectations on men, know how to express more emotions than “angry” and “horny” and have shown vulnerability in the past, people will find it much easier to approach you.
On the other hand, if someone is working super hard to keep up their “manliness”, you may realize that they’re struggling, but you’ll have reservations about tearing down the crumbling facade they’re desparately trying to preserve.