• InfiniteGlitch@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    1 year ago

    Yes, we can see he did that. Yes, she said that afterwards. She showed no signs of it at that moment.

    I’m not saying she’s lying, I’m saying that the people on here pretend to know everything.

    Personally, I’m curious how this goes. What more evidence I want? Nothing. Don’t think there’s more unless we can actually get a video with sound where we hear what both of them say.

    • triplenadir@lemmygrad.ml
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      1 year ago

      Yes, we can see he did that. Yes, she said that afterwards. She showed no signs of it at that moment.

      1. please explain what kind of “sign” you are thinking of.

      2. please then make an earnest attempt to empathise: you are in a public situation, your boss, who has an immense amount of control over your future career, makes an unwanted sexual advance. how confident do you feel enacting the “sign” in point #1

      3. please then rate, on a scale of 1-10, where 1 is “not at all convincing” and 10 is “completely convincing”, the “sign” in point #1, and the public statement after the fact that the kiss was not consensual, in terms of you believing that Hermoso did not consent. in rating the public statement after the fact, please bear in mind the risks of the public statement to Hermoso (including the lawsuit mentioned in this article, the potential career damage in point #2, and the potential harm that thhe player is likely to cause to people who have experienced sexual assault, were she to be discovered to have been lying about not consenting)

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      1 year ago

      So you don’t want any more evidence. So you either believe her or you think she’s a liar. Which is it?

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          1 year ago

          Yes, you believe the abuser caught in video but you’re too much of a coward to admit it outright.

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          1 year ago

          No. You didn’t. You said “I’m not saying she’s lying”. That’s not the same.

          Do you believe her statements or do you think she’s lying?

          • InfiniteGlitch@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            1 year ago

            Honestly? I don’t know what to believe. She could’ve as what was called “spontaneous agreement” and later on regretted and now saying she doesn’t want it.

            Or she did not want it from the start but again how should I know when - I was not there to hear it?

            I can say “I believe her” and then I’d be wrong. I can say “I don’t and believe the guy” and be wrong. Doesn’t change a thing. You are making this personal just like the other two.

            My point still stands, people here pretend to know everything while we all were not there hearing it all.

            So for what’s worth it - I do want to thank you for the respectable discussion. However I don’t like when things become personal in a discussion because that’s when the actual argument and discussion fades away.

            I hope though, whatever happens, it will be with full transparency and the right person will be punished.

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              1 year ago

              When someone in a position of power and authority does something like this to someone who is under their power, it is 100% inappropriate. The person in a position of power is always at fault, ESPECIALLY if that person then accuses the other of lying. This should not be a debate and I’m disappointed in your apparent lack of judgement. Do better.