So… Over the phone doesn’t count? Texting doesn’t count? Email? Those don’t count? I would think that in this day and age texting would be the normal way to ask a girl out for a first date.
You know it’s REALLY hard for someone not super social to ask a girl out in person. I’m 50 and i think I’ve never asked a girl out for a first date in person… But then again, I am an introverted nerd so that’s probably to be expected. Hell, I asked the girl I ended up marrying out over email…
You go to a social place, and you just start up a conversation, while she’s not talking to someone else, or obviously already socially engaged.
You find a relevant topic to start, from the moment.
“Hey, I like your hair.”
Or, “I noticed you grooving to this song, I like it too.”
Or, “You like Newcastle, too? Nice.”
Then, if she smiles, or engages in more conversation, just ask her about her. But that doesn’t guarantee anything. If she obviously isn’t interested beyond common politeness, just walk away, without a scowl on your face, or a smartass comment, or bitching about it here. It happens. Talk to another woman. Or, if there are no others there, try again another night.
And… and… she may be interested, but doesn’t want to PornHub bang you that night. Outrageous, I know. She may want to get to know you better.
This is a skill, that is learned from experience. And you will fail, a lot, until you learn it. And even if you master it, you still fail sometimes.
So… Over the phone doesn’t count? Texting doesn’t count? Email? Those don’t count? I would think that in this day and age texting would be the normal way to ask a girl out for a first date.
You know it’s REALLY hard for someone not super social to ask a girl out in person. I’m 50 and i think I’ve never asked a girl out for a first date in person… But then again, I am an introverted nerd so that’s probably to be expected. Hell, I asked the girl I ended up marrying out over email…
You don’t just walk up to woman and ask her out.
You go to a social place, and you just start up a conversation, while she’s not talking to someone else, or obviously already socially engaged.
You find a relevant topic to start, from the moment.
“Hey, I like your hair.”
Or, “I noticed you grooving to this song, I like it too.”
Or, “You like Newcastle, too? Nice.”
Then, if she smiles, or engages in more conversation, just ask her about her. But that doesn’t guarantee anything. If she obviously isn’t interested beyond common politeness, just walk away, without a scowl on your face, or a smartass comment, or bitching about it here. It happens. Talk to another woman. Or, if there are no others there, try again another night.
And… and… she may be interested, but doesn’t want to PornHub bang you that night. Outrageous, I know. She may want to get to know you better.
This is a skill, that is learned from experience. And you will fail, a lot, until you learn it. And even if you master it, you still fail sometimes.
Yeah i read this and assumed it meant more people were using dating services or something