The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Master_Lake9012 on 2025-02-15 21:48:14.

Recently I had some friends over for a party at my house, and notably didn’t invite my friend “John.” I didn’t lie to him, or say that we weren’t doing it, or rub it in his face, I just had some friends over and he didn’t get the invite.

I felt bad, but at the same time he always stays too late, makes things really uncomfortable for me, and is just a difficult guest to have in my house. I hosted a super bowl party, and he stayed roughly two hours later than everyone else, even though I straight up told him, “parties over dude.” He vapes, he says the n-word (which i don’t think anyone should say, but especially not him) and makes jokes abt some of my mental health issues.

I love him to death and he’s one of my oldest friends, but it’s at the point where if he’s coming to my house I have anxiety the whole day leading up to it.

Anyways, he called me during my party and asked me what I was up to, and if I wanted to catch a movie. I said I actually had a couple people over so I couldn’t tonight, and he asked who, I told him and he asked why he wasn’t invited/if he could come, and i said something along the lines of “ehh not tonight man.” He kind of lost his shit at me and sent a bunch of angry texts the next day, which is imo a huge overreaction bc i tried to be as nice as i could about things.

so ig aitah if i just stop inviting him?