I should have stayed home with my cats and ordered take-out. The gays are just as transphobic as anyone else. Fuck people. I opened myself up and I’m mad I did.
I’ve come to assume that legit everyone, regardless of their political or community affiliation (YES, INCLUDING TRANS PEOPLE/SPACES), is transphobic until proven otherwise. I trust no one these days. But I’m really sorry you experienced this ignorance & harm in a space that SHOULD be accepting… It gets so fucking tiring. You’re a beautiful woman and NO ONE can take that truth from you.
That’s kinda why I say we’re the most discriminated group of people in the world. There’s nowhere to be safe, not even in our own communities
The more marginalized your intersectional community, the more discrimination you face from that community.
For example, jf you think it’s tough being a woman in the united states, try being a black woman. And if you think that’s hard, try being a black trans woman.
At some point, you just lose community entirely, as that becomes a privilege for those less marginalized.
I’m so sorry this happened to you!
Allow this gay to say: you are 100% a real woman, full stop.
And anyone who thinks otherwise is a transphobic asshole, not a queer ally or interested in queer liberation, and you are better off without them in your life.
I second this gay!
I’m a cis lesbian and I’ll punch anyone who’s transphobic right in the face.
I also think it’s rather sad that we’re generalising in an LGBTQ+ space, of all places. Please remember that they want us to be divided because we’re stronger when we stick together.
“Not all straight…” “Not all men…” “Not all cis…”
When does this become an issue with generalization and stop being an issue of covering up/defending shitty, toxic behavior within a community?
That’s what you should say to the transphobe.
Fuck that guy. You do you, and don’t let dumb shits like them bring you down.
ETA: fuck them* I had assumed by gay op meant guy. Sorry.
Well, fuck her. I was happy I made a new friend. I was very wrong. Full disclosure: I disagreed with her regarding celebrities and assault allegations. I learned (well I guess I already knew) when I disagree with a cis woman about something - I’m “not a real woman anyways”. My identity hinges on being a good little pet for the cis. Fuck that.
(For the record, my first instinct is to believe the alleged victims of sex assualt. I know it takes a lot of courage to come forward. It’s just that when large sums of money are involved, I prefer to let the courts decide. How monstrous, and manly, of me).
“Not a real woman” as if trans women are not also the victims of assault by horrible men…
She probably knew what would hurt most and used that. Doesn’t help much at the moment, but maybe it takes the tip off. It’s shit you lost a potential friend, but at least you lost a hurtful person at the same time.
