Similar issues present themselves at my bullshit job every day, but this example from a friend highlights this perfectly imo. Friend Works as a second grade teacher and was recounting an instance where kid a tells person b to go back to Mexico. Kid b dumps milk on kid a. Guess who got in more trouble (it wasn’t kid a).

It’s best for mental health to stop putting some much mental energy into shit like this because I have no control, but it just boggles my brain how kid a likely hears reactionary bullshit from his parents, repeats it without a second thought without realizing the damage it does while kid b has lived the damage and very believably views this as the threat it is. Funny how the parents don’t get a call though because reasons. It’s not like there is any possible world where they could bear any responsibility

It all sucks so much