The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/LocationDouble2820 on 2025-01-14 10:07:36.

I (19 F) need advice and guidance for what to do moving forward. When I was younger I was sent to live with my grandparents (dad side) for a few months. At the time I spoke little to no English and most of the time my grandpa helped me with my hw but he would rapidly get angry at me for not understanding and he would usually scream at me to the point that I would not do the hw and end up being scolded at school. On the other hand my parents would posts pictures with my cousin and my grandma would show it to me and my older brother and say that they had changed us for my cousin, plus she would not let us watch tv or play video games and whenever I played with my dolls she would say I needed to go to a psychologist because I was crazy for talking to myself not to mention that she would tell us to ask my parents for money if we wanted to go out because we never did, which turned out to be a lie because later on my parents told me they would send a good amount of money monthly for our food and other necessities. Now, my parents and I have moved into a two-story house, and my grandparents have relocated to live with us. Initially, things seemed okay, but then my grandma’s behavior began to create tension. She gossips excessively and often reveals surprises before they happen. Recently, when my parents planned a surprise visit to family, my grandma disclosed their plans and even overshared details like their arrival and gifts for others, leading to frustration among us.

Moreover, I learned that my grandma has been contacting my stepbrother (with whom my dad has had no relationship for years) and sharing information about my dad being in town. This has caused stress to both my parents, who are already overwhelmed by the drama she creates, I also feel like her actions in a way are disrespectful to me and my brother.

As a result, I have started avoiding conversations with my grandparents. Whenever I am forced to engage with my grandma, it becomes unbearable, often leading to headaches and frustration. Additionally, they’ve brought a parrot with them that is noisy and makes a mess, further contributing to the chaos in the house. Despite our cleaning efforts, the mess quickly accumulates, especially around the kitchen area where the bird’s cage is located and they also don’t clean the area often.

Given the ongoing tension and my growing irritation, I find myself questioning whether I am wrong for wanting my grandparents to move out. I feel overwhelmed and need some guidance on how to handle this situation, as I don’t want to harbor negative feelings towards my grandparents, but the current living circumstances are affecting my well-being. Thank you for any advice.