Some white Americans assume that living here automatically means I owe them loyalty or support, but that expectation feels hollow. “Assimilation” gets thrown around a lot, but what does it actually mean in practice? Too often, it comes across as pressure to abandon your identity, to conform in ways that feel like betrayal, or to accept a subordinate role just to be accepted.
There’s also a deeper frustration behind it. If U.S. foreign policy hadn’t destabilized my home country, I might not even be here in the first place. So being told I should support a country I associate with that kind of harm feels unreasonable. From my perspective, it shouldn’t be surprising that I still feel connected to China and view it more favorably. And if China continues to develop, returning to my home country could become a real option.
The “American Identity” is a joke. This is a country that bombs and invades others to pilfer resources. America is a terrorist country.
I am a white American, born and raised here. I’ve never been anywhere else and have no connection to anything else.
And yet I feel no connection to this country either. Everything looks and feels fake; as if somebody asked ChatGPT to invent a country and this is what it came up with.
There are the foundations of a society and a nation here but nothing built on top of that. No history or culture, just a hollow and vapid identity devoid of substance. It feels like it didn’t even exist before I was born. That’s how shallow everything about this country is. I don’t feel like I belong here at all and yet I don’t have anywhere else to go either.
I would say I feel this in my soul, but the soullessness of living in the US doesn’t make for much of a feeling of having a soul in the first place.
Know a Chinese guy with the same logic. Come here, make money, go back home
There was this based person from 2 years ago:
I spent most of my life trying to be “one of the good ones.” Rejecting my heritage. Not teaching my kids Spanish. And for what? There is no culture here.
This ICE shit made it clear to me, If you aren’t white you will never be seen as American, full stop. Nonwhites in this country are always the other.
I have been here for most of my life and still get asked “where are you from originally?” When I answer Texas they say “where is your family from?” I look like a tan white person. The only thing different is my name. They wouldn’t ask a John Smith these questions. This place is steeped in racism. Most white people are like fish in water, they can’t even see it. And when it’s pointed out more often than not they get defensive, deny their privilege.
I’m going back home now, and I wish I hadn’t allowed myself to separate as much from my roots. There will be a lot of catching up to do.
Better late than never I guess.
I recently moved from overwhelmingly majority white rural Ohio to a majority black community in the south and it’s been a huge breath of fresh air, even as a white person myself. The racial political difference is massive and made it abundantly clear how reactionary politics in America overwhelmingly stem from the white population.
Anglo-Saxon American culture is incredibly vapid and anti-human at its core. As a result, being engulfed by undiluted whiteness is incredibly depressing.
There’s a pretty high Pacific Islander population in my area. They treat it exactly as that: a place to make money. They make no attempt to assimilate and send their money back to their home country. It’s neat to see how close knit they all are, they often eat family style. That’s a closeness that is completely absent in American culture except for a few days in the year where you end up squabbling about politics with your grandparents.
yeah i don’t identify with this shithole and i was born and lived most of my sorry life here
America feels less like a home and more like a place to earn money.
facts…from everywhere in the world, people usually go to USA to grift or hustle to send money back home and enjoy the wealth. there’s people who stay there, but usually tend to return of being proles in gringoland to feel like the rich familiar from the US back at home
It really does, though it more feels like colonization and dehumanizing yourself than trying to earn money. Some white people including a couple of family members have tried to get me to abandon my Asian heritage. Why? There’s nothing to be gained from beside alienating myself and probably other Filipinos by doing that. There’s also no point in trying to attach your heritage as a “minority”, a term that actually applies to white people since they only make up a small percentage of the world population, to the “amerikan identity”.
One time my great-grandparents bought me a shirt that was about “celebrating your Filipino-amerikan heritage”. Yeah, a shirt about attaching my asian ethnicity to the empire that colonized and genocided our people? not wearing that. I asked for traditional Filipino clothing, not shitty colonizer shirts. And I have explained several times as to why I don’t wear it.
I’m thinking of moving to Asia in the future, to either the Philippines which is my home country, or China.
WDYM earn money, I’m just living paycheck to paycheck doing the capitalist rat race
yeah I have no idea who would even bother trying to earn money by moving to amerika; doing so would just cause you to lose money to the myriad amount of scams that are legalized (insurance being one of them).
In order to become ‘American’, one has to let go of their human conscience.
Asian Americans, mostly but not at all, lost some authentic traditions and made themselves as separate identity from original counterparts.
