• RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    23 days ago

    There are plenty of things I can’t do anymore, but I was shocked at how hot it was to do some of the things I thought I wouldn’t like in real life.

    I think masochism is the line where it’s the most different - I like some pain IRL but it can quickly cross to where it’s unsexy or only hot because I am doing it for the sadist, like as a submissive thing it’s satisfying but the literal pain is just painful beyond what is gonna make the high or the arousal. In fantasy, where obviously I’m not hurting, that line is farther away, though it still exists.

    You do need good communication and an enthusiastic partner to do any sort of threesome, I think it’s fun (MFM), was better in real life than I’d imagined it would be.

    CNC I have written about here, that is different in real life but not worse. I think because in your mind the other person is undefined, right? More like stuff being done to you. But in real life it’s a real person with their own desires, they are driving, you are on their ride.