• hoch@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    I’m not going to Thanksgiving this year. I’d rather celebrate with my cats than my crazy family

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      Me too. Are you telling them why? I’m leaning towards cutting them all off, going full no contact, saying exactly why, and moving to either a blue state or out of the country for a while (which I have the means to do).

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        7 days ago

        I normally find some stupid excuse to get out of family gatherings, but this will probably be the year I tell them directly.

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          I’m really torn because overall my family and I have decent relations and they aren’t the totally fucking insane Maga types. But I’m so incredibly disgusted, ashamed, and terrified, I can’t just go over and pretend everything is normal. We are so far past politics as usual and the ebbs and flows of power/control. So idk what to do. I’m probably going to skip and stay home and order a pizza and smoke all day and watch LOTR or something, just can’t take this shit anymore idk

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      6 days ago

      This is the first time I have ever had a good (medical) excuse to not attend my wife’s conservative family’s Thanksgiving. The problem is they’re evangelicals and this is Indiana, so they always vote red.

      To their credit, they are very warm and welcome people. They accepted my daughter is queer the moment my wife told them (whereas my supposedly left-wing mother poorly hides her distaste) and they welcomed me into their family despite knowing I was Jewish. They have never once tried to convert me.

      I don’t really get it, but it won’t be an issue for much longer anyway because we’re emigrating ASAP.

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        Ayyyy, Indiana gang. I’m up in amishland where it’s quite red, so I definitely understand.

        I’m interested in emigrating too, though I’m a bit worried about this seemingly global shift to the right.

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          Yeah, there’s nowhere 100% safe, but I’m a dual citizen with the UK and they are working to ban conversion therapy. My goal right now is to just keep my child safe.

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      My tradition (ever since I moved away from my irl friends) is to stock up on one of every type of turkey TV dinner at the grocery store, then feast on that over the course of the 5-day weekend (thank you, Union!). It’s super chill. I play video games and knit. My pup and I will hang out at the dog park.