It’s not their responsibility to teach but it’s also not my responsibility to keep abreast of all social developments. It’s inappropriate to gatekeep due to someone’s naive ignorance.
Picture this. Sitting at a table game and someone drops a term or phrase that I don’t recognise. Am I going to run to the toilet and google that term? Or am I just gonna say 'yo, what’s that mean?"
There’s a world of difference between hearing a term you’re not familiar with and saying something like, “I’ve never heard that before, would you mind telling me what it means?” and learning about someone’s marginalization and asking them a bunch of questions about it. I’m guessing this rule is targeting the latter.
Personally, if I meet someone who is marginalized, I avoid talking about their marginalization unless they bring it up and are clearly interested in talking about it. If they don’t want to be defined by it or be asked a bunch of questions about it, then that’s their right.
How on earth did you stumble across a comment that is 5 days old?
No objection with your framing. In fact, I tend to agree. My disagreement was the narrow / binary lens applied by the previous commentor. Their perspective (‘your responsibility to learn’) is/was an extremely dismissive approach.
How on earth did you stumble across a comment that is 5 days old?
I’m only subscribed to like three communities so I see a lot of the same posts when I sort by subscribed.
We both agree that it’s not all or nothing. It’s unreasonable to say that asking a good faith question is always bad, just like it’s unreasonable to demand someone answer questions about their marginalization. I was just pitching in my thoughts as to where the line is.
It’s not their responsibility to teach but it’s also not my responsibility to keep abreast of all social developments. It’s inappropriate to gatekeep due to someone’s naive ignorance.
Picture this. Sitting at a table game and someone drops a term or phrase that I don’t recognise. Am I going to run to the toilet and google that term? Or am I just gonna say 'yo, what’s that mean?"
There’s a world of difference between hearing a term you’re not familiar with and saying something like, “I’ve never heard that before, would you mind telling me what it means?” and learning about someone’s marginalization and asking them a bunch of questions about it. I’m guessing this rule is targeting the latter.
Personally, if I meet someone who is marginalized, I avoid talking about their marginalization unless they bring it up and are clearly interested in talking about it. If they don’t want to be defined by it or be asked a bunch of questions about it, then that’s their right.
How on earth did you stumble across a comment that is 5 days old?
No objection with your framing. In fact, I tend to agree. My disagreement was the narrow / binary lens applied by the previous commentor. Their perspective (‘your responsibility to learn’) is/was an extremely dismissive approach.
I’m only subscribed to like three communities so I see a lot of the same posts when I sort by subscribed.
We both agree that it’s not all or nothing. It’s unreasonable to say that asking a good faith question is always bad, just like it’s unreasonable to demand someone answer questions about their marginalization. I was just pitching in my thoughts as to where the line is.
Hmm, yeah.
This shit that you’re doing, right here? Nobody wants to deal with that.