• webghost0101@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      12·
      11 months ago

      Option D: “hm” while looking straight at them

      No matter the context it seems like a rude comment to make. But you may also want to avoid continuing the conversation, so a quick hm before walking away seems like a good middle ground.

  • lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    14·
    11 months ago

    Hey this sorta happened to me irl.

    Them: What’s going on with your hair?
    Me, closeted: I’m experimenting.
    Them: That’s what women do.
    Me: Whatever (shuffles away awkwardly)

    Obviously the true solution was to just come out right then and there… but my hair was a mess.

    • Bongles@lemm.eeEnglish
      9·
      11 months ago

      I’m a guy and I’ve been experimenting with my hair lately, so fuck’em.

    • WalrusDragonOnABike@kbin.social
      5·
      11 months ago

      Similar issue with my friend on couple occasions asking if I’m a girl and my step mom also asking. Mostly because of hair. But I’ve always answered no since I’m not (as far as I’ll admit to myself).

  • Ccx [they/them/🐰]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    10·
    11 months ago

    Thanks, I was going for that today. 🟨⬜🟪⬛

    The annoying one is when they say one thing and then start correcting and apologizing. And I can’t stop them to give a 20 minute lecture on gender identity and my lack thereof. (-:

  • ThatFembyWho@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    11 months ago

    I think the giant smile on my face, and blush in my cheeks would say more than words…

    Nobody has been that blunt with me yet. They have found many ways to give me feminine compliments tho. A demure “awww thanks” is my standard reply.

      • ThatFembyWho@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        1·
        11 months ago

        My voice doesn’t pass by any means, but I do have a softer, higher register that I’ve often used in situations like that my whole life. I work on making it a little more feminine over time, and try to use it more often. My partner and I work on it all the time, because they are fully supportive of my transition and never judge.

        I just had my first official endo appt and she’s referring me to a group vocal therapy for trans folks, so I’m super nervous but also super excited to practice!

        • euphoric.cat@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          2·
          11 months ago

          lucky. also for me, my voice is sooo deep i cant do it because it just sounds buzzy, hell i cant quietly talk because of it. i dont know why now but this gave me an incentive/motivation to start some kind of voice training

      • wizzwizz4@fosstodon.org
        0·
        11 months ago

        It’s my firm belief that there’s no such thing as a masculine voice.

        I know, I know, but: consider After Ever After by Paint (https://yewtu.be/watch?v=diU70KshcjA), or direct speech in a well-read single-narrator audiobook. There are objective sonic qualities of a voice, but that’s not how human perception works. I can guarantee you’re overthinking it. (Though if you want to mix up your speaking habits, by all means go for it! I recommend learning to do impressions and accents, for awesomeness purposes.)

    • WalrusDragonOnABike@kbin.social
      5·
      11 months ago

      Could just be a statement, not intendent to be complement or taunt? But I’d assume more likely to be a taunt because that’s my basically my default assumption about most complements.

      • Cyrus Draegur@lemm.eeEnglish
        4·
        11 months ago

        Sounds like the only realistic response, regardless of correctness, would inevitably be “y-you too…”

  • JPAKx4@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
    5·
    11 months ago

    This is my SO lol. It’s fun but I always feel bad bc of how awkward it makes them feel

  • Smoregoose@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    2·
    11 months ago

    Omg the first night I was with my friend after shaving my face for the first time in a while, before I was even 100% sure of anything he literally said something along the lines of “You know, you could really pass as a girl right now if you wanted.” Like, I hadn’t done anything special… I just no longer had a beard and had brushed my hair that I had gotten cut to dude length a few months before, and just Jesus Christ… then, his girlfriend said she didn’t see it, and I internally mostly agreed with her that I didn’t look remotely feminine, but still internally freaking out that he even said that… but then he had to clarify “You know, like one of those ugly short haired girls”, and just fucking Christ…

    I still just feel the same mixture of giddy and dead inside thinking of it. He’s my best friend, but I wanted to both hug him and kill him. I honestly think it’s about 25% of the reason I’m still not out irl…