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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/pay_me_in-cats on 2023-10-07 04:46:39.

I (33F) am tired of my husband(31) telling people I don’t have a job. For clarity, when we got together I had a job but work isn’t something that brings me joy so I barely talk about it unless I’ve had a bad day. I work for the family business and I put together and submit building permits to various cities in my county and sometimes in other counties. I do a ton of driving for work and have to have strong people skills to deal with the city employees. We’ve been married for seven years and all the way through he’s told people I don’t have a job, it seems because I work for my family. Even his mother sent me job applications when we we got engaged. Yes, I will say since the pandemic, the work hours have been less. But I still bring in an income. I’m pretty much salaried at a set amount of hours when the work is low. But I’m embarrassed by the way he presents me to people. When it comes up he tells people I don’t work and then I get people referring jobs to me. And I’m not very good at speaking up for myself and if I do he tells them I don’t work. Usually I’m shocked that he even insists that I don’t have a job so it catches me off guard. We had an argument about it and he cussed me out saying I don’t understand him?? As a side note he told me when we got married that he didn’t want me to work and wanted to support me( he is the breadwinner in the house)which is amazing but am I the asshole to want to still get acknowledged for what I contribute to the financials?

Also as a side, side note I love this man to pieces. He’s been an amazing partner in many, many ways but this one part is hurting my feelings badly.