• foofiepie@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    You say that, but there’s a flip side to this. I’ve been in an abusive relationship where my SO was always a hair trigger away from a full on apeshit moment. You find yourself (regardless of your confidence) wondering if you’ve annoyed them and after a while, you flinch at any shift in tone of voice. It can be a sign of abuse, but not just in the way you mention.

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      5 months ago

      This meme is relatable but what you said is absolutely true. I’ve been at the barrel end of this psychological abuse. Of course, she was physically abusive too.

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      5 months ago

      It doesn’t matter if the behavior is the result of past trauma. Taking that trauma out on your partner by treating them like they’re an abusive person is abusive.

      The behavior being understandable doesn’t make it alright.