• ParabolicMotion@lemmy.world
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    If only it were free, right? Try having a graduate degree in math and become poor/ostracized from the community due to filing for divorce. Suddenly, your only option for a career change is returning to college, or asking the Army to enlist you. Oh, but weighing 125lbs at the time is too fat for the tape test, they don’t like the fact you’ve had an organ removed, and you’re old by that point with kids. Yes, college should be free. It should also be free to change your name and immediately have all your records updated to match that new name, so you can start over in life without any discrimination.

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      I have no idea what you’re even talking about. You’re saying divorced people with mathematics degrees get ostracized from some sort of mathematics community and thus can’t get jobs? That’s utter nonsense.

      And yes, you have to go back to college to change careers if you want a career that takes an education. What does that have to do with the necessity of joining the military if you’re poor?

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        It isn’t just the math community in my local area, it’s the whole community. Everyone is hell bent on looking perfect and maintaining a pristine image. They can’t risk endorsing a colleague, or community member that has filed for divorce.

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          Which country do you live in? This sounds like something that could never happen in the UK or US as divorce is extremely common. I’m pretty sure you would have to have done something bad in order to be ousted here. Like abusing your partner would do it, not just divorcing them.

          Also legally changing your name is fairly easy, I am sure if you talked to your University you could get them to update the records. Chances are though it would show up in a background check.

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            I live in the United States.

            My spouse abused me and there are police reports that show the abuse, plus a restraining order against him.

            I already changed my name once, out of tradition, because I wanted to have my husband’s last name after marriage. It was an absolute nightmare to change my last name. Many background reports don’t even show my marriage record. One of them listed me as “German” under the box that said “race”. I’m not even German. I’m mostly Scottish and Irish. You know who is German? My mother-in-law. She was actually born in Germany and changed her last name after marriage, too. Also, my sister-in-law had the same last name after my husband’s dad adopted her. She has criminal records. I now have to worry about my mother-in-law and sister-in-law having their records be mixed up with mine. Thankfully none of the criminal records have ended up on my report by mistake. The major issue is the federal government not linking my married name to my maiden name to fully ahow all of my vital records. It’s annoying. The state, or the feds, are either really slow, or they just slack on record keeping/reporting.

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              You describe it in such way, that when compared to changing name in Russia, in latter changing name looks like calling a taxi.

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              I’m mostly Scottish and Irish.

              Were you born in USA? If so I think actual Scottish and Irish people would be annoyed about you calling yourself Scottish and Irish. Also just because some of your distant ancestors were Irish or Scottish doesn’t mean you don’t have German heritage, they could well have descended from German ancestors themselves. In fact it’s pretty pointless trying to resolve race down to countries, especially without DNA evidence, and it’s mostly a social construct anyway.

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                I have taken several dna tests. Most of my ancestors were Scottish and Irish. I am not German at all. By dna I am mostly Scottish and Irish. I also have an Irish residency card, and have spent time in both Ireland and Scotland.

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                    Mutt? Is that what you called me? I am willing to bet I am more Irish by dna than you. I’m actually offended by the amount of European people that live in Ireland and have treated me like I’m not Irish in terms of heritage. Careful who you call a mutt.

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          Sorry… you have a math community in your local area?

          And do you have evidence for this bizarre idea that when someone gets divorced, the entire academic community ostracizes them?

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                Yeah I think they were trained to be that character. That’s why they give superficial responses that always weave back into the divorce. I mean, if they are a person, they’re stuck in a recursive feedback loop which probably means they are having a psychotic episode of some kind.

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                  That doesn’t explain the crazy rants about Latino blood gangs or wanting to use a cadaver dog to find someone on their family’s property. It is too consistently crazy to be random LLM posts.