Pregnancy was easy, I felt so good, it was the first time I felt good about my body even though it was big, I felt beautiful. No migraines because of the hormones, which was glorious, and crazy high sex drive, the additional blood flow made sex feel so good.
Labor was weird - mine were mostly “precipitous”, meaning I didn’t really feel anything, silent labor, until the transition, so I would like puke and have very sudden hard labor for about a half hour then a baby.
Childbirth sucks. My midwife told us to do fisting to train for it but we didn’t, and ought to have, I got torn. Again, mine were fast, no pushing on purpose my body just did it but even a small baby is too big to come out that way, and mine were big (smallest just under 8lb, biggest right at 10lb). Still, better than abdominal surgery and recovery.
Hormones for sure. It was odd, I couldn’t dredge up any desire at all. I could get off but it was like I couldn’t be bothered, was starting from below zero instead of my usual +3, or the +5 of pregnancy, teenagehood, and 40s.
Nursing - i would get a strong feeling of doom when the milk came down, thought I was crazy and didn’t tell anyone, found out many years later that it’s called DMER and was not just some unique madness. But once it started it was fine, it feels about how you would imagine, physically. Emotionally, outside of the odd doom rush, it made me feel good about my boobs - they were very small even while nursing but made So Much Milk it made me realize they were real boobs, complete and functional, in a way I had not felt at all before.
How often would you get the DMER thing?
Also, I’ve heard nursing described as feeling like “peeing through one’s nipple” …is that accurate?
Also, apart from sex drive, how long did it take for your body to get back to normal after birth?
Every time but only for a little while. Like the worst drug rush ever. Then it was just gone. And no, not like peeing, it’s secretion not excretion, I didn’t feel the milk coming out as much as the baby latching on. It did squirt right out though, it’s pretty funny and also magical and awesome, free food for the baby is an incredible design.
At first they do get full and hard, first couple of times the real milk comes in, but then adapt, and in my experience just make milk on demand when the baby nurses. My now grown kids say I am not empathetic about ladies who have issues nursing because it just seemed natural and not something I or any of my babies had to learn, it just happened. Have the baby, put 'em on the boob, that’s it.
For me:
Pregnancy was easy, I felt so good, it was the first time I felt good about my body even though it was big, I felt beautiful. No migraines because of the hormones, which was glorious, and crazy high sex drive, the additional blood flow made sex feel so good.
Labor was weird - mine were mostly “precipitous”, meaning I didn’t really feel anything, silent labor, until the transition, so I would like puke and have very sudden hard labor for about a half hour then a baby.
Childbirth sucks. My midwife told us to do fisting to train for it but we didn’t, and ought to have, I got torn. Again, mine were fast, no pushing on purpose my body just did it but even a small baby is too big to come out that way, and mine were big (smallest just under 8lb, biggest right at 10lb). Still, better than abdominal surgery and recovery.
Firstly: Ow, fuck, am guy, am even guy who uh, isn’t afraid of a prostate massage, but still, can’t imagine internal tearing from childbirth is fun…
Did you maybe get an epidural or some kind of IV with some kind of painkiller?
But anyway, as with the other mom (congrats by way!)… did you have any specific food cravings during pregnancy and if so, what were they?
Not really, no. I did eat more, and drink more water. And got sleepy more.
Huh!
Well, thanks for answering =D
Pregnancy stops migraines? Also, did you not have morning sickness?
It stopped mine because periods were my main trigger. And no, not really any morning sickness, I felt good.
Nursing tanked my sex drive though, that was very disappointing after the high of pregnancy!
What does nursing feel like?
Also, did your sex drive tank because nursing made you tired or was it more the hormones of nursing just quelling your sex drive?
Finally, how did the additional blood flow make things feel good?
Hormones for sure. It was odd, I couldn’t dredge up any desire at all. I could get off but it was like I couldn’t be bothered, was starting from below zero instead of my usual +3, or the +5 of pregnancy, teenagehood, and 40s.
Nursing - i would get a strong feeling of doom when the milk came down, thought I was crazy and didn’t tell anyone, found out many years later that it’s called DMER and was not just some unique madness. But once it started it was fine, it feels about how you would imagine, physically. Emotionally, outside of the odd doom rush, it made me feel good about my boobs - they were very small even while nursing but made So Much Milk it made me realize they were real boobs, complete and functional, in a way I had not felt at all before.
How often would you get the DMER thing? Also, I’ve heard nursing described as feeling like “peeing through one’s nipple” …is that accurate? Also, apart from sex drive, how long did it take for your body to get back to normal after birth?
Every time but only for a little while. Like the worst drug rush ever. Then it was just gone. And no, not like peeing, it’s secretion not excretion, I didn’t feel the milk coming out as much as the baby latching on. It did squirt right out though, it’s pretty funny and also magical and awesome, free food for the baby is an incredible design.
What does feeling full feel like vs feeling empty then?
At first they do get full and hard, first couple of times the real milk comes in, but then adapt, and in my experience just make milk on demand when the baby nurses. My now grown kids say I am not empathetic about ladies who have issues nursing because it just seemed natural and not something I or any of my babies had to learn, it just happened. Have the baby, put 'em on the boob, that’s it.