You can be friendly without being actual friends. I prefer not to make actual friends at work, the exception being once I’m no longer working with I’m more likely to spend time with them socially. I never understand why people get so upset when you don’t want to be friends; they interpret that as “you must hate me if you don’t want to be my friend”. No, I just have a finite amount of time and energy for friends.
My performance is not based on friendship stats like some kind of dating sim.
Also, sometimes I dont want the psychic weight of having to take my friend over the coals for violating safety procedure. I also dont want my friend doing overtime he really doesnt want to do because he knows I need it done. Work is work and work is purely transactional.
I can absolutely be friends, but if you cant accept that its entirely seperate to work. We arent.
You can be friendly without being actual friends. I prefer not to make actual friends at work, the exception being once I’m no longer working with I’m more likely to spend time with them socially. I never understand why people get so upset when you don’t want to be friends; they interpret that as “you must hate me if you don’t want to be my friend”. No, I just have a finite amount of time and energy for friends.
My performance is not based on friendship stats like some kind of dating sim.
Also, sometimes I dont want the psychic weight of having to take my friend over the coals for violating safety procedure. I also dont want my friend doing overtime he really doesnt want to do because he knows I need it done. Work is work and work is purely transactional.
I can absolutely be friends, but if you cant accept that its entirely seperate to work. We arent.
That really does suck when work obligations can be in conflict with genuine friendships. A big part of why I prefer to keep things separate.