I don’t think I’ve spoken to a woman on Tinder who is actually interested in dating. The majority of them don’t ever reply, the few that do put zero effort into the conversation and often just want money. Once in a while a woman agrees to meet then just doesn’t. What the actual fuck? How do you guys handle this bullshit?

Before I get called an incel 1000 times, I am already doing everything right. I’m in therapy, I exercise every day, I eat healthy, I have diverse interests and several friends. I have paid people to review my profile and conversations and everyone agrees I am doing everything right.

  • AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.eeOP
    01·
    1 year ago

    Several of my friends have told me getting hit on is uncomfortable and not to do it. So apps are my only option.

    • Bongles@lemm.ee
      3·
      1 year ago

      Asking someone out in person is fine. Start up a normal conversation if you can, if it goes well ask them out or ask if you can give them your number or something before you walk away. If they say no you accept it, stay polite and move on. No one reasonable will have a problem with that as long as you had a normal genuine conversation. You’re not hitting on anyone at that point.

    • tad_lispy@lemm.ee
      2·
      1 year ago

      It’s not easy and your friends might be right, but perhaps you are focusing on the wrong thing in their advice. Don’t “hit on them”. Be present, attentive and confident. If a girl likes you, talk with her more about your shared interests. Try to arrange group activities, where you can be together with other people. Build relation and trust over time. And remember that being confident means being ready to take “no” for an answer without making a big fuss about it. Good luck!