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      Not so much made as highly dependent on context. Ie, it depends what you’re nodding towards.

      But up and down… yeah, they’ve been pretty universal wherever I’ve been. Kinda cool, really!

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      Yeah, my understanding is that the side depends on context but also eye movement, like with the “check that out” you can move/roll your eyes to the side you’re pointing to to signal that, while the “come over here” is a quick move to the side you’re pointing and moving back to the center

      You can also count mouth movement too but that depends on the person, some faces are rock solid and don’t move unless they talk and some are doing all kinds of facial expressions

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        Up and down is “guy code” but side to side is just universal “look/go over there”

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      Up and down are reversed for black dudes. I hope this can clear up communications between the races.

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    Left and right are not correct. A sideways tilt of the head while maintaining eye contact means “follow me”, a sideways tilt of the head with a glance in that direction means “look over there.”

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    A man’s up nod is for a stranger: “I will not try to kill you if you don’t try to kill me.”

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      It’s not.

      “Hey, look at that girl/car/tree/Chihuahua” isn’t a left nod. It’s eye contact, then you look at the thing.

      “Come here/go there, let’s talk” isn’t a right nod. It’s a weird neck movement where your head is kind of sideways and you’re nodding in the direction of the place you want them to go. You usually use “Hey, look at that tree” first before you try to get them to go to the tree to talk.

      Can confirm up and down are correct enough, though. Up is for people you know, down is for people you don’t.

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        Up is for people you know, down is for people you don’t.

        I don’t think this is exactly true. It’s all about your facial expression. You can give a stranger an up nod if you kinda give a, “eh. What a day, huh?” kind of expression. You can greet people you know with a down nod with a kind of, “g’day sir” expression. Here are many varieties on this.

        But if you keep your face blank/hard, then yeah, I can see an up nod to a stranger coming off as hostile.

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    Bro you know: nod the head up like “what up bro”

    Bro you don’t know: nod the head down to show respect.

    Supposedly, these types of greetings are ingrained from centuries ago in the sword and shield days, where if you didn’t know someone, you would give a downward head nod to not expose your neck (to get sliced).

    Whereas if you knew the person you were greeting, you could give the upward nod and not worry about exposing your neck.

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    The beard looks fake and it’s weirding me out.

    Also, as an autistic person, you’re missing a gesture. It’s to stop moving and stare in horror like a deer in the headlights, because you’re unsure what’s happening or how to respond.