Failing is fine. Throwing a temper tantrum on the floor of the toy store (as pictured) is not.
…the fuck is a parenting expert?
A parenting expert is an individual who follows current research in child development and has some degree of familiarity with multiple parenting styles with informed ideas about the benefits and malluses of each style. More than likely they have a graduate level degree with years of study under the tutelage of a mentor or professor.
I’m a parenting expert, and I know raising children can be tricky, especially in today’s accelerated, unpredictable, fear-based world. But challenges will be a regular part of their lives, and we must help kids become resilient so they can bounce back from those tough times and handle whatever comes their way.
That’s because each time we rescue, overprotect, or coddle, we send children a harmful message: “We don’t believe you’re capable of doing that alone.” So, kids learn to depend on us to pick up their pieces, and there goes their chance to learn to bounce back.
The very next time you want to swoop in to help — don’t. Instead, step back and subscribe to a new parenting behavior: “Never do for your child what your child can do for themself.”
I feel like a better way of parenting is to teach your kid
I feel like this message would go over better here in the US of A if school didn’t teach us that failure was the worst thing that could ever happen to us. That if we failed too many times we would end up homeless, living in a ditch, with the bitter ashes of failure in our mouths.
